We have now had this situation for over 2 years. She threatens solicitors and never goes through with it. When he points out his rights and says he would go to a solicitor she changes her mind and we have a few weeks respite. She point blank refuses mediation and will not sign anything. She refuses to answer texts or her phone unless it is to be abusive so it is really hard to make arrangements. What I find unforgivable is that she gets my 8 year old grandson to pass messages to Daddy on his phone! (not abuse thank goodness)
Yes she has stopped him seeing the children because she says he hasn't paid enough and he is a *** useless father and she will tell them that. However when she wants to go out she then relents and gets him to pick them up. She changes arrangements at the last minute and demands that he does what she wants or she will come and drag the children away or will not let them come at all. He does not want them to witness her screaming at him. This has happened both out in the street and once in the house in front of her own family on Christmas Day. This was so traumatic for him and the children who were sobbing and putting their hands over their ears, that none of them have ever forgotten it. Even her own mother was horrified.
We have never said a bad word about her in front of them and never would as of course they love their Mum. However they love their Dad too so we have to try and maintain the status quo. I don't think there is an answer but thanks everyone for listening to me rant!!!!
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