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To be feeling a bit fed up and used?????

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janeainsworth Sun 22-Mar-15 10:51:36

Felice that sounds really hard.
Sounds to me as though you could do with some friendships of your own - could any of your old friends from the village visit you? Perhaps they don't realise how isolated you have become. Or people from your church?
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jinglbellsfrocks Sun 22-Mar-15 10:43:01

And I think, maybe stand up to son in law a bit. Tell him calmly and firmly that he is being silly. It sounds as though they need you as much as you need them.

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jinglbellsfrocks Sun 22-Mar-15 10:39:35

What an awful situation Felice. flowers Sounds like son in law had an unhealthily emotional relationship with his mother. It is a shame for your DD that they didn't sell the house and buy something else of their own when the house came to them. Unlikely from what you say that this will happen now though.

I can't see anything you can do tbh. Just sit tight and continue to enjoy your little grandchild. At least with him around you won't be lonely as you might be in another part of Belgium on your own.

Would it be possible to quietly sound out the local authority to see if they have anything available in your area? Surely they would understand the family ties and not send you miles away.

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soontobe Sun 22-Mar-15 10:31:44

Good idea to get it off your chest.

Do you mean that your SIL stays in your apartment?
Or is estranged from your DD, but is often at the general house?

Sorry for your predicament.

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felice Sun 22-Mar-15 10:26:59

Sorry if this is a bit long but need to get it off my chest. 2 and 1/2 years ago I moved to a one bedroom apartment in SIL and DDs house.
For the last year SIL has hardly spoken to me. No argument or anything.
I look after DGS age 3 nearly everyday, from the past 15 days he has stayed here 9 nights and been to visit everyday for at least 4 hours a day.
I am disabled and in constant pain.
I moved back into the city from a village on outskirts where I had a lot of friends, in this area although I am near my Church I do not really know anyone around. I am unable to use public transport and though I live in a lively area of the city I don't really get the chance to benefit from it.
I had a blazing row with DD on Thursday evening she arrived at 19.00 to collect DGS, supposed to be 15.00. A friends Mother had died and he and SIL were in a right state, SIL grieving for his own Mother who died 21 years ago. I was fed up and told her he should get on with his life instead of forcing her and DGS to live with her ghost, 'don't touch a glass as it had been his Mothers, not buying new furniture as everything was his Mothers, using a tiny old washing machine, he gave me a hard time for pruning the roses in the garden, it had never been touched, for 19 years, it is now at least a safe place for DGS to play. I would qualify for sheltered housing here but that could be anywhere in Belguim as I would be government funded i would not have a choice just have to take what i was offered. I also do not want to move away from DD and DGS as they are all I have. I really feel for DD as she is between a rock and a hard place. Thanks folks I really needed to get this off my chest.

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