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New update on my reclusive neighbours.....

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AlieOxon Mon 27-Apr-15 17:28:51

Today they set their kitchen on fire.
First I knew of it was a knock on my door from other neighbours who had already rung 999. Smoke billowing out of their front door next to mine.
There have been three fire engines, two ambulances and two police cars here all afternoon.....the man next door has gone to hospital and the paramedics spent ages I think trying to persuade the woman not to stay in the house tonight...she sat on the fire engine step for about two hours... ....but eventually she went back in.

Firemen had to check my loft for smoke. My house is smoky.
I have been staying out of it..these people are too weird for me to deal with. Not happy with this situation though.
I just went out to get an update from a fireman, and apparently various people will now be involved in the next few days and I have been asked to ring environmental health tomorrow.
Could also ring councillor who helped before!

AIBU to dread having to go on living next door to them?

glassortwo Mon 11-May-15 09:26:30

Alie thinking of you {{{hug}}}

Agus Mon 11-May-15 09:25:01

You're in my thoughts dear Alie. just wish I could do more to help. ((((Hugs))))

Lona Mon 11-May-15 09:10:39

Alie my thoughts are with you too, it must be so difficult having to deal with all the things that need sorting out, when you must just want to grieve.
flowers look after yourself (hugs)

Ariadne Mon 11-May-15 09:03:19

You are a strong woman, dear Alie but this is such a hard time for you, and you know we are all with you in spirit. I am glad the Samaritians are walking with you too. Sending my love.

Riverwalk Mon 11-May-15 07:22:54

I'm so very sorry to hear of this Alie - glad that The Samaritans were able to help you in your time of need flowers

MariClaire Mon 11-May-15 07:17:15

I'm so sad for your loss, Alie. You are in my thoughts, and I'm sending hugs too. Please try to take good care of yourself flowers

harrigran Sun 10-May-15 23:22:37

Thinking of you Alie.

Marelli Sun 10-May-15 22:57:05

Thought about you a lot, Alie, over the last few days. Look after yourself. xx

Tegan Sun 10-May-15 22:38:44

Let us know when the funeral is; we can, at least, be with you in spirit.

Mishap Sun 10-May-15 21:38:01

Alie - I am so glad that the listening ear of a Samaritan helped you through last night - how good that they are there. You can let it out to someone who is not also grieving.

Your son's partner sounds as though he is really appreciating your support.

Thinking of you.

whitewave Sun 10-May-15 21:23:18

Oh Allie - how are the children coping?

AlieOxon Sun 10-May-15 21:18:27

Last night I spent about an hour on the phone to the Samaritans...both helpful friends here are away! I cried a lot.
But the man on the phone was so patient, and when I hung up I felt somehow lighter.

Today I have been in Oxford again and Jayne's partner was in a bit of a state, but things did improve, there were friendly visitors (family) and he has just texted me goodnight.
Tomorrow back again, and there will be a discussion about when/where/what as regards the funeral.....

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 08-May-15 16:27:45

The very worst thing to have to cope with Alie. flowers

AlieOxon Fri 08-May-15 15:55:13

Thanks - Alie

Tegan Wed 06-May-15 23:06:32

Still thinking of you, Alie. Take care.

whenim64 Wed 06-May-15 22:53:48

What a tough time you're having, Alie. Sending you my best wishes flowers

merlotgran Wed 06-May-15 22:38:36

Sending you my best wishes, Alie I hope you manage to get some sleep.

AlieOxon Wed 06-May-15 22:25:24

Just back from Oxford again....think some things are sorted out but more to come.Oh what a business!!
Thank you everybody.

Mishap Wed 06-May-15 16:07:28

Do take time to look after yourself too Alie flowers

kittylester Wed 06-May-15 15:57:40

Thinking of you Alie

bikergran Wed 06-May-15 15:16:09

really sorry to hear such sad news..what a shock for you all.

Maggiemaybe Wed 06-May-15 15:05:34

I am so sorry for your loss, Alie. flowers

TriciaF Wed 06-May-15 14:42:42

I've only just caught up with this too - how very sad. Sending condolences and hoping this is the end of all your bad news.

tanith Wed 06-May-15 14:16:32

Only just read the thread I am truly sorry for you loss Alie flowers

glassortwo Wed 06-May-15 14:11:29

Alie I have just caught up with this thread, I am so sorry flowers