Grandchildren

Don't ask, it isn't any of your business frankly. If they want to discuss it with you, they will, otherwise keep out of it.

YABVVVVU -and here we go again, suggesting it's the DIL. Goodness. Bad idea to ask son in private - he'll tell her and you'll come across as going behind her back.

I agree with PRINTMISS and Grannyknot. If they had wanted the subject discussed they would have brought it up themselves long since. They are the ones who must take the initiative .Wait patiently.

I asked my daughter (been together for 8 years, married for one) this very question and she told me to butt out and mind my own business. Then she banned me from ever raising it again unless she did (we get on well, enough to straight talk to each other). One of the things she said was "How do you know we haven't been trying for ages with no luck, so it's a very sensitive subject?" Another thing she said was "Do you think you're the only one asking me that very personal question?" which I hadn't thought about.

I'd keep quiet.

Personally, I would keep quiet about the whole thing. What will you do if he says 'no, we are not planning to have a family'? What if they are trying really hard and are desperately unhappy that things are not going right for them? Perhaps there are problems about which you know nothing, and they do not want you to either know, or worry about. If they are planning to have a family, and everything is working(?) then it will happen in their time, and when they are content with it. Sorry if that sounds blunt, but we had one or two remarks about the amount of time we took to start a family, and I had to hold my tongue on several occasions. My daughter and son-in-law were married for 15 years before their son arrived - it was their choice.

I'd be inclined to ask my son in private rather than asking them both and risk upsetting his wife if the answer isn't what you want to hear.. can you not just bring it up in conversation when you are on your own with him but put in such a way as to be just a query, "do you think you and * will have a family one day", hopefully he won't feel you are putting on the pressure...