Selfishness?

I have a friend I met at mum and toddler group MANY years ago. We always send each other congratulations cards on our childrens birthday! It started as a bit of a joke about not having all that hard work recognised--working, house work, bringing up kids etc, but now I think it means quite a lot to each of us.
So--no, rubylady, you are more than entitled to pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved!

Good for you, ruby; what time are you going to have your glass of wine/cup of tea. If you give us an exact time we'll raise a cup/glass to you...[and us!] #wedungood

Well done rubylady, you should be very proud of yourself. Celebrate and look forward to reclaiming a bit more of yourself

well done to you ruby

Celebrate and enjoy it rubylady you deserve it

No you are definitely NBU to want to celebrate your achievement. You deserve to pat yourself on the back and feel very proud of yourself rubylady. Being a single mum can't have been easy, particularly when you have health problems to contend with as well.
So well done you! Celebrate away tomorrow, for all you're worth! Eat , drink and be merry. And enjoy these

Actually jingl I have made that very suggestion to my offspring many times - makes sense to me too.

Quite right, rubylady, to celebrate making it through to here! Have a great time.

Enjoy tomorrow rubylady for you and for rubyson

Well done Rubylady, you've every right to feel proud of doing a difficult and rewarding job -children don't come with a Users Guide unfortunately!

Have a lovely day tomorrow and enjoy your lunch x

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I always think our kids should give us flowers on their birthdays. Makes sense to me. [wine[ Rubylady

Of course YANBU! It's a milestone in both your life and your son's and you must celebrate as the occasion merits, particularly when you've had a harder time than some of us! Enjoy the day, both of you

I was a single parent for only a short time, but long enough to know it's jolly hard. Well done to you and yes, you go and celebrate. [balloons]
(Okay we don't have balloons, but I really think we should.)

All I can say Ruby is well done you and keep patting yourself on the back,I congratulate OH & myself every time one of mine come through the door and I see how self reliant and responsible adults they have become a big achievement after some of the things they have all done over the years but everything has turned out well in the long run and they are all good kids. (she says with fingers crossed)

No not selfish rubylady, you are entitled to feel proud. Well done!
It must have been a very hard road sometimes