Just adding my condolences for you all. Losing a child at any age is awful for us and 41 is far too young.
I'm sorry I don't know the piece you are referring to.
I suspect you will be feeling that you have to be strong for your other daughter and the rest of your family, but your own loss is immense and I hope you have people to look out for you.
You are right, it will get better, but it is a long journey and likely to feel very raw for a while. I hope you can comfort each other along the way.
xx 