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Im Lost just now.

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Kupari45 Thu 04-Feb-16 12:09:57

My lovely daughter died yesterday of Breast Cancer. She was 41 and had 3 young kids. So Im in in pieces today. However I am trying to comfort my other daughter who is very distressed. I was telling her that it will very graduaily get better. Now the reason I am posting here and not on the Bereavement Forum is: DOES ANYONE REMEMBER ABOUT, LAST SUMMER A LADY POSTED A COMFORTING PIECE ABOUT BEREAVEMENT. She likened it to being tossed in a raging sea and clinging on for dear life, and gradually you reach calm waters. I hope some of you with good memories might be able to help. I am keeping busy helping with the children today. However I thought the above article might bring some comfort to us all.

Luckygirl Thu 04-Feb-16 12:11:32

flowers - how very sad for you all.

Nonnie Thu 04-Feb-16 12:13:28

Sorry I can't help you about that thread but just want to tell you how sad I am to hear your situation. I don't think it actually does get any better, I suspect you simply get used to it. I cannot imagine how hard it must be to watch your child dying and then to cope with her death. I feel so very sad for you and your family. flowers

I hope there is someone on gn who can find the right words for you, it is beyond me.

janeainsworth Thu 04-Feb-16 12:19:47

Brenda I am so sorry for you and your grandchildren and know that words can be of very little comfort just now.
The days ahead will be a struggle but I hope you do eventually find those calmer waters. flowers

loopylou Thu 04-Feb-16 12:24:36

Oh Brenda, I'm so, so sorry to hear this.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you all, x

Charleygirl Thu 04-Feb-16 12:45:59

I am so so sorry to hear that news- you and your remaining daughter must be devastated flowers to both of you.

Teetime Thu 04-Feb-16 12:48:38

kupari45 I am so so sorry how dreadfully sad for you I don't know what to say other than I am thinking of you and wishing you well.

KatGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 04-Feb-16 12:51:15

We're so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter, kupari45. flowersflowers

We've had a look for the thread - was it this guest post?

ffinnochio Thu 04-Feb-16 12:51:41

Kupari45 I'm so sorry to hear your news. Please accept my condolences to you and your family?

I'm afraid I don't have the information you require, but hope someone will remember. If you message GNHQ they may be able to help you.

ffinnochio Thu 04-Feb-16 12:53:26

Ah, crossed posts.

Imperfect27 Thu 04-Feb-16 12:53:37

Just adding my condolences for you all. Losing a child at any age is awful for us and 41 is far too young.

I'm sorry I don't know the piece you are referring to.

I suspect you will be feeling that you have to be strong for your other daughter and the rest of your family, but your own loss is immense and I hope you have people to look out for you.

You are right, it will get better, but it is a long journey and likely to feel very raw for a while. I hope you can comfort each other along the way.

xx flowers

Grannyknot Thu 04-Feb-16 13:05:17

Oh kupari big virtual hug. flowers

mollie Thu 04-Feb-16 13:29:14

Sincere condolences Kupari45. So very

Katek Thu 04-Feb-16 13:33:09

My deepest sympathy Kupari, my heart goes out to you

NanaandGrampy Thu 04-Feb-16 13:35:38

I'm so sorry for your sad loss flowers

cornergran Thu 04-Feb-16 13:35:42

So sorry Kupari. You are all in my thoughts. flowers

MiniMouse Thu 04-Feb-16 13:47:13

flowers Kupari

ninathenana Thu 04-Feb-16 14:47:29

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your family strength in the coming weeks flowers
I distinctly remember the thread you mention. I believe the poster was quoting something they had read. It was a very moving and comforting text. Sorry I can't remember who the OP was.

chelseababy Thu 04-Feb-16 14:51:08

I haven't got the right words, don't think there are any so flowers

WilmaKnickersfit Thu 04-Feb-16 14:55:22

No words Brenda flowers

Smileless2012 Thu 04-Feb-16 15:17:00

So very, very sorry Kupariflowers

thatbags Thu 04-Feb-16 15:19:37

Kupari, hugs for you and your family flowers sad

Eloethan Thu 04-Feb-16 15:20:10

So sorry to hear your very sad news Kupari.

Synonymous Thu 04-Feb-16 15:26:37

Kupari so sorry to hear your news. Condolences to the whole family. flowers

Lona Thu 04-Feb-16 15:27:37

kupari I can't imagine how bereft you and your daughter must be feeling! (((Hugs))) flowers