Was feeling a bit miffed.

downtoearth I wonder if E is now at an age to start realising what you have done for her. You have stepped in and been a mother to her. Is there any way you could gently hint that a bit of love shown towards you on Mothers Day wouldn't go amiss?

I have no idea what might be happening on Sunday and am not at all concerned about it. I know they will be thinking of me in their own busy ways and there is likely to be a card or two. These trumped up commercialised celebrations can be a real pain and just lead to disappointment and unrealistic expectations.

I have totally given up on caring whether it's called Mothering Sunday or Mothers Day. I used to feel strongly about the Sunday name but these days - who really cares? We all know what the day means.

I know that I will get a lovely card from the absent one. That'll do me.

I had a lovely surprise yesterday. DS texted me to warn me to watch out for a delivery. An Amazon parcel duly arrived just after lunch and inside was......a large bottle of gin!!

And not just any old gin but Tanqueray.

Now that's what I call a Mother's Day present - if I can hold off on gin o'clock until Sunday!

(he obviously knows you well merlot)

downtoearth I am sorry I caused you distress. I did try to say as clearly as possible at the start that I wrote what I wrote, not knowing the back story.

I feel for you, [jingl] and if I celebrated MD I'd feel the same because I suspect I'm easily hurt and tend to brood.
I have mixed feelings about Muvva's Day. On the one hand I totally agree with Bags about it being overblown and money in the pockets of card/teddy/flower producers for nowt. On the other hand.....I never realised till it was too late that my own mother would have loved a card or something, and I thought my whole family was in agreement about boycotting it. So when my father married again and he mentioned quietly that MD meant a lot to her, I determined to send a card and also to my mother-in-law who pays lip-service to how 'silly' it is but I know likes getting cards anyway.

My OH scoffs and won't participate but he isn't a hearts and flowers/cards/presents person anyway....:-/

For myself, I also have mixed feelings...I don't expect anything but part of me would secretly like to get a card, if only just the once!

#mixed-upoldcrone

Funny thing, Mothers day as, when children are small it's up to other adults to buy a card/help them make a card/actually tell them it's mothers day so it's only when they're older/adult that they do it off their own bat so it's more important that they make an effort then. Having said that all I expect is a card and I've been known to be very upset if I've thought they've forgotten to do that. My happiest memory is when my son got his dad to buy some flowers and leave them in the porch for me [he was away at uni and I couldn't work out how the flowers had got there]. The worst was when I did a waitressing job on mothers day and got home to a cry from everyone of 'what's for dinner'........

I may see my children for a brief visit Friday or Monday and may or may not get a card but not going to worry about it. If the weather is nice on Sunday I will be out walking with a picnic in my rucksack.

narrowboatnan you made me smile, there are times I would like to be unreachable from my children, only times I might add not always.

Love the idea of a Fuckitbucket. Started another thread this morning while feeling down but it is now going in the Fuckitbucket.

Am I happy with a card and a bunch of daffs? Of course I am. When a friend of mine tells me about her lunch out and big bouquet do I feel a tiny tinge of ? Of course I do. I only ever gave my mum a card and a pot plant on Mothers Day so I guess I can't moan.

A card and a bunch of daffs is enough for me, mrsjones My DS once gave me a Super Mum mug and a soppy card (he obviously hadn't read the verse) and was shocked when I burst into tears (so was I!) Granted it was still in a paper bag from the shop and had a half price sticker on it.....

Ah, that's really nice. I'll bet your little one loves to do something nice for her mum.

Thank you for posting.

When my two DSs were little, the only mothers day cards or gifts I received had been made at school, as DH was never going to get me anything on their behalf. When they reached the age where they no longer made anything at school to mark the day, more often than not I would get nothing at all. Then when they left school and went off first to university and then into jobs, it was very erratic. I counted myself lucky if I got a quick phone call from either of them on the day, and there were many times when neither of them would remember.

Times have moved on, and they are both married. Since they first met their partners, I've received cards every year, and often more, thanks to my lovely Dils.

This year I got a surprise though - on Sunday afternoon, DS2 popped in unexpectedly to wish me a happy mothers day and give me a card and a little plant. Yes, he'd got the date wrong!!! Do I care? Not a jot - I was over the moon

I got home from shopping today and found on the kitchen worktop a MD card and a George Foreman Grill with...... wait for it.... removeable plates DH had gone over to the local Asda as he'd seen me looking at it but not justifying it as our old one still just about works albeit the non-stick barely still exists.

DH said ..... it's not very personal but I knew you'd like it. Reminded me of why I knew he'd be a good 'un.

I think someone up thread posted what I am going to say, I had been married for 7 years and a mother for yearsa few months when my first mother's day came round.
I had been trying to get pregnant for 4 years.
I was so excited but absolutely nothing happened,when I said something H just said " but you are not mother"
I never got a card or anything until my D started school when they made one and brought it home.
I never got as much as a bar of chocolate when I had my 2 children and now I am caring for him with Alzheimer's and it is very hard work.
I am not usually so open although I have said I in the past how my feelings have changed, sometimes things need to be said so that others feel OK with how they feel.
My D will send a card and maybe flowers I won't see her,S may or may not remember.

annsixty

I have just come to bed and I really can't believe I posted that self indulgent, self pitying message. I am having a difficult family time and am tired and fed up, just ignore me please but thanks for the flowers appygran
My age is showing?

annsixty. Isn't that just what gransnet is for ?

Won't ignore you annsixty.

Totally understandable. annsixty. Mothers' Day was ignored in my family until my ex shoved off. Then my two DSs, teenagers though they were, started to observe it and have done ever since. What a relief it is that they don't take after their father.

Ann60 it's not a sign of weakness or self-indulgence to post something straight from the heart. Good on you for just saying it as it was..and still is (((hugs)))

Ann60 sometimes it helps to let off steam,when you are being strong all the time and a hug []

Annsixty it wasn't self indulgent.you are doing a difficult job. Have some more