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Jane10 Sat 12-Mar-16 08:48:16

Why is it that female genital mutilation is illegal but mutilating the tiny penis of little baby boys is somehow OK? This has been done to an acquaintance's DGS and I struggle to understand how it is allowed. I'd never be able to restrain myself if it was to happen to my DGSs.

Luckygirl Sun 20-Mar-16 17:26:27

The evidence about reducing cervical cancer has been discredited.

The current medical advice is very clear: boys and men should only be circumcised if there is a medical problem that makes it necessary.

Why would anyone go against medical advice for their child?

janeainsworth Sun 20-Mar-16 17:20:35

Sorry just realised I have missed out 2 pages of posts blush.
As you wereblush

janeainsworth Sun 20-Mar-16 17:18:16

Yes Teetime. It may seem barbaric, but there is evidence that it reduces infection with the human papilloma virus and hence cervical cancer in women.
www.webmd.com/cancer/cervical-cancer/news/20110106/male-circumcision-cuts-womens-cervical-cancer-risk

Venus Sun 20-Mar-16 17:16:05

granjura, that is absolutely untrue! Jewish women can be present at a circumcision and Jewish women are at the heart of family life. The child is not Jewish if the mother isn't. No way are they 'inferior and subservient', quite the opposite infact. Please get your facts right.

FGM is a totally different issue altogether. Whereas circumcision is a minor procedure, FGM most certainly isn't and should not be talked about in the same terms as circumcision. It affects the female for life!

Jane, as I mentioned before, my grandson did not even cry when being circumcised. So you were present at many circumcisions, as you say that you have' heard babies scream in pain?' Why go more then once, if you feel so strongly against it?

Crun, Jewish babies are circumcised at 8 days old which is the optimum time for this, whereas babies and children who are circumcised later in life, as you have said, '5,12 and 15 months', would be aware of pain.

Her Majesty, the Queen, was happy enough to have her three sons circumcised and I'm sure that she took advice on the matter from the highest authorities before making her decision. Our future king is circumcised.

As I have stated previously, there is no overwhelming proof of harm done to the infant.

granjura Sun 20-Mar-16 16:24:23

I also always understood that neither Jewish nor Muslim women were allowed to be present at the circumcision. One of the common objection to it, apart from that of 'assault without consent on a child' - is that excluding women is part of the patriarchal cultures which consider women as somehow 'inferior and subservient'.

Jane10 Sun 20-Mar-16 16:02:00

That's exactly how I feel Granjura. I couldn't possibly stand by when it was being done!

granjura Sun 20-Mar-16 15:19:29

It's an assault on a defenceless child unable to give consent- and for no reasons whatsoever in the vast majority of cases. How anyone can condemn one, and condone the other - is beyond me.

And how a mother or grand-mother can collude in this and even attend - is way beyond the beyond- I would pick my GS up and run forever...

crun Sun 20-Mar-16 15:12:53

"I can assure you that I have attended many circumcisions, and the baby's cry does not change when the procedure is being done, and in the case of my grandson, didn't cry at all."

That's the reason why doctors used to believe babies feel no pain, it's been proven wrong:

"In a study of 5-, 12- and 15-month-old infants, Kouider et al. showed that even the youngest infants had full capacity for conscious perception, although their ability to express such perceptions had not yet developed."

Luckygirl Sun 20-Mar-16 13:45:18

Both FGM and male circumcision are assaults on babies and children and have no place in a civilized society.

There are no medical indications for circumcising healthy baby boys.

Jane10 Sun 20-Mar-16 13:39:32

I entirely disagree. This is a cruel and quite unnecessary historic hangover from the desert. Just because something is widely done doesn't make it a good thing. I have heard babies scream in pain. Venus you are kidding yourself but I suppose you have to believe its a good thing as you appear to have colluded in its perpetration.

Venus Sun 20-Mar-16 13:06:43

George 1 brought the practice over from Germany and then the procedure goes through Queen Victoria's children to Edward V11 to the Duke of Windsor. Prince Charles and Princes Andrew and Edward are also circumcised. About one third of the world is circumcised, males up to fifteen.

Unless there is overwhelming significant proof of harm done to the child, and there is no such evidence , then circumcision should be allowed to continue.

Venus Sun 20-Mar-16 11:01:52

Yes, Whitewave, I did read that article which has been lifted straight from the internet. However, do not take everything you read at face value. Because it's been printed, does not mean that there is any truth in it. Look on other sites and you can read about the benefits of circumcision.

Granjura, I know a consderable number of men who have been circumcised, and they are fine. My nieces's' husband was circumcized before he got married to her, and he told me that there was no difference from what he felt before, so I'm willing to take his word for it, but you are right, as a woman, I can't speak from personal experience.

I can assure you that I have attended many circumcisions, and the baby's cry does not change when the procedure is being done, and in the case of my grandson, didn't cry at all.

I do believe that many members of the royal family have been circumcised, but I don't know if Prince George was.

granjura Sat 19-Mar-16 22:41:20

And so will I.

Did you read Elegran's link Venus?

There is plenty of evidence that many men do suffer after effects- and research in Danemark shows for women too (painful sex and dryness and poor/rough sex too).

whitewave Sat 19-Mar-16 22:31:23

No none of that is true venus

However I realise that I may well be treading on delicate ground here, so will now bow out gracefully from this conversation.

granjura Sat 19-Mar-16 22:25:09

Circumcision for health reasons when there is a problem is a totally different issue. Otherwise, there is not excuse for mutilation - which is what it is. End off - and the pun was not intended!

Many men disagree with you totally re the effects btw. How can you possibly know yourself?

Venus Sat 19-Mar-16 22:06:40

Circumcision has health benefits including a decreased risk of urinary infection, prevention of phimosis (the inability to retract the foreskin) and paraphimosis (the inability to return the foreskin to its original location). Circumcision also makes it easier to keep the end of the penis clean.

My husband, sons, and grandson have all been circumcised and don't feel that they have suffered any trauma from the procedure.

Genital mutilation is a completely different issue, as it affects the whole well being of the female. Circumcision does not affect the male in any way.

granjura Sat 19-Mar-16 19:45:52

totally with you Whitewave- barbaric and should be just as illegal as FGM

Elegran Sat 19-Mar-16 19:40:02

all-about-men.blogspot.co.uk/2007/04/seven-circumcised-penis-myths-and-facts.html

whitewave Sat 19-Mar-16 19:17:00

I am sure that is a myth venus

Do you have long flowing hair and a wonderful figure?

Venus Sat 19-Mar-16 18:33:11

Circumcision is more hygienic and it has been proven that there is a lower rate of cervical cancer among Jewish women because Jewish males have been circumcised.

My two sons have both been circumcised, as has my grandson and all have come through the procedure with no ill effects.

Luckygirl Tue 15-Mar-16 14:34:28

Me too!

pompa Tue 15-Mar-16 14:24:41

Oh LG, that brings a tear to my eye.

Luckygirl Tue 15-Mar-16 10:06:28

By the way Elegran the men who try to reverse circumcision are hanging weights from the vestiges of foreskin to try and stretch it; or by having a surgical graft from the skin of the scrotum.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/how-to-reverse-the-irreversible-1338650.html

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foreskin_restoration

whitewave Tue 15-Mar-16 09:28:30

All these practices must have started back in the mists of time.

So imagine the mindset of the first person who decided that to cut a baby or small child in the most sensitive area of its body without the benefit of anaesthetic or antibiotics, was something eminently desirable!

If someone suggested it today they would be locked up.

The trouble is we let custom and history get in the way of truth and desirability and Sanity.

Iam64 Tue 15-Mar-16 08:08:48

I agree with those who say any discussion on FGM has to include male circumcision. I;m not suggesting the reason its done, or the life long implications are in any way similar. FGM is done to prevent women enjoying sex , it causes life long pain and health problems. Male circumcision is (as I've understood it) seen as ensuring cleanliness in the hot sandy countries in which it began.

Both are practiced on children/infants too young to given informed consent. Otherwise, they're incomparable.