to not want to contribute to honeymoon?

I think it's because most young people live together before getting married and have all the toasters, tea cosies etc that that they need.

We attended several Chinese weddings when we lived in Hongkong and the custom there is to present the happy couple with 'Lucky money' in a red packet.

I agree with you Shiraz that it's nice to look at things and think of the person who gave them to you (my garden is full of things which have grown from cuttings from family and friends' gardens), but I'd much rather contribute to something that the couple want and if that's a honeymoon in an exotic location (we had 2 nights in the rain-soaked Lake District) then that's fine with me.

I have long felt uncomfortable with lists, but I can see the point ...the multiple toast racks being the standing joke, but a honeymoon fund just seems totally mercenary. Ìf, having spent a small fortune on the wedding, you can't afford an exotic honeymoon ,well so be it. Why not settle for a long weekend in Paris ( or Bridlington?)?
One of the nicest weddings we went to recently was a youngish couple who had been living together for several years so had no need of presents but asked for donations to Water Aid. We actually gave more than we would have done , had it been for 2 weeks on a beach in the Seychelles

Lots of young couples have already established their household long before the wedding and really aren't in need of 'things'. I had no problem contributing what I would of spent on something not wanted/needed to allow them an unforgettable honeymoon.
I too think times have changed and I know I have some precious 'heirlooms' that no one in my family would give house room to.

When I got married those 3 division stainless steel serving dishes were in fashion. I got 4. (I didn't want even 1)!

We happily contribute to a honeymoon fund if that's what the couple want.

Times have changed!