No. It feels horrible to be treated in a patronising manner. In the end you give up and just let it happen. And that's not good.
When the waiter directs every enquiry or comment to one of your adult children, and then looks faintly surprised when you are the one producing the plastic when the bill come round. And when they ask, "Is this your card?" "No, it's my daughter's and she's letting me play at being the Mummy".
Grrr!
To go through chemo therapy or choose not to?