Patronising or what?

Yes, I agree about that one. Very rude.

Me too about endearments, but what jings spoke about was not that. It was plain rude.

Ditto

Me too, GandTea.

I am apparently oblivious to patronising comments. I just take many of the comments posters mention as simple pleasantries. If someone calls me "Darling" or Blesses me, I just take it as a pleasant remark, rarely intended to indicate a sense of superiority.

I hope you're not referring to me, soop I wasn't even slightly warm under the collar. Just mildly amused.

This issue has nothing to do with being PC and to say it is is to miss the point. It is about equality. If we continue to gloss over patronising comments, pretending that it doesn't really matter, then hell mend us when we find ourselves being consistently marginalised as old, no account, invisible duffers.

Time for me to quietly make an exit from this forum. I cannot understand why some folk get hot under the collar over such trivialities. Back to the kitchen. In need of a and some light-hearted conversation.

I took something back to M & S that was too small, and was told by the very young assistant that I could order the bigger size online if I had someone that could show me how. I've been buying online since before she was born. I was gobsmacked, but ended up feeling sorry for her, as she saw my face and hers turned brick red! Aw, bless, she was only trying to help

In your snottiest voice, jings: "You do realise how patronising and ageist you're being, don't you, young man person?"

Actually Bags I might say that next time it happens.

soop! It's so lovely to see you on a proper thread!

These days I just chuckle inwardly. Much like I reckon you would do.

Bags I cba any more.

I will, as in when the time comes!
But I am not one to not accept help/advice./assistance from anyone.

Blimey obie, I thought you were only in your fifties!

I am same as soop.
I will take all the , aw bless, help across the street, help with anything I can get. And thank the person for it.

I've heard that phrase "oh bless" said about people of different ages and genders and it always sounds patronising to me.

Is your DD a very dominant and/or attractive person, jings? Not making excuses but I'm finding it hard to imagine you not being stroppy about being treated patronisingly

I wouldn't accept the sort of patronising that jings says she gets. Milder stuff I can shrug off, if I even notice it, but not actual rude stuff like not talking to the person who's buying and then asking if her credit/debit card is hers, is just rude and ageist.

Oh, I accepted it with a smile OK. I don't think he was shy - he did some work for a young woman around the corner and when I passed he was chatting animatedly.

Still cannot find it in me to get ruffled...guess I'm just a soppy old dear.[ wink]

Elegran Perhaps he was shy. I would have accepted his comment with a becoming smile.

"Oh bless!" is generally said about someone, as an aside to the grownups present, soop, not directly to the object of the remark (well, they are either cute pre-schoolers or they are gaga, and wouldn't understand it, poor old scones)

The young man who did the paving in my garden came in for his cheque and was no sooner through the front door than he said admiringly "You keep the place spotless " No I don't! I do the minimum to keep it fit to live in. He hadn't even looked around - just said what I assume he thought all old ladies would love to hear, that all they are good for is to keep the house clean.

(No offence meant to any old ladies who pride themselves on their spotless homes - but as the only attempt opening gambit of a conversation?)