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Pensioner on a train

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LullyDully Tue 26-Jul-16 17:33:15

The.children were in the wrong but he was totally out of order. This is 2016 not 1956 for goodness sake. There are ways of talking to children without getting physical..

carolmary Tue 26-Jul-16 16:20:08

Of course he should not have touched the children, but I do have some sympathy for him. Badly behaved kids are becoming more and more common on public transport and apart from putting feet on seats, most of them very rarely give up their seats to old people or pregnant women the way we were taught to do when we were children. Unfortunately on ourlocal trains the conductors tend to hide in the driver's cabin when not actuallty issuing tickets.

ninathenana Tue 26-Jul-16 16:05:12

Totally inappropriate and illegal. Gives our generation a bad name

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 26-Jul-16 15:57:32

A child between the ages 8 - 11 is too young to be put in an armlock, no matter what the circumstances. Well, perhaps if he was about to kill someone.

Pensioner nasty, idiotic, bully.

Marmark1 Tue 26-Jul-16 15:56:52

I can understand wanting to do that with some awful kids,but no,he should have restrained,
Just accidental( but by purpose,)as my great niece used to say,trip him up as he passes.

Anniebach Tue 26-Jul-16 15:51:56

They were not young men, their ages were 8 to 11 . They were wrong to put their feet on seats but some children do, this does not mean they will grow up to be thugs. The actions of the man was so wrong

nanaK54 Tue 26-Jul-16 15:46:00

Completely inappropriate in my humble - dreadful 'old' man who seems to have lost control.
As others have said why not report to the guard?

NfkDumpling Tue 26-Jul-16 15:33:45

They were both in the wrong but in this day and age the man (unlike the DM I see no relevance in the fact he was a pensioner) should have known better than to lay a finger on a child. If he'd asked them politely and received a load of abuse in reply the next step should have been to find a guard. A person with authority. If more people stir up the guards to do something then fewer young yobs may grow into adult thugs.

NanaandGrampy Tue 26-Jul-16 15:26:15

They were both in the wrong.

The days of manhandling anyone are gone.

The boys ( did they give an age) were also in the wrong. Outdoor shoes on a seat someone is going to sit on is offensive . Perfect way to get chewing gum or other things on your clothes.

I would have asked the boys and if not I would have either found the guard , or taken their picture and shamed them on social media.

I wouldn't have ignored it because I believe that's the way things escalate. Today feet on the seat , tomorrow ...... What?

PRINTMISS Tue 26-Jul-16 15:03:36

it was an over-reaction by the man concerned, but the young men were at fault in the first place. They presumably paid for one seat, and so were not entitled to the other. Personally, if I had not wanted the seat, I would not have bothered to tackle the problem, but it would have irked me. I think the arrogance is worse than the deed.

KatyK Tue 26-Jul-16 14:56:28

I don't think you should ever lay your hands on other people's children, no matter how badly behaved, unless you are breaking up a fight or something.

M0nica Tue 26-Jul-16 14:38:14

Do not condone the crime, a ridiculous over reaction - but I know how he felt. I have often felt like that in the presence of rude ill-behaved children, with or without their parents.

Anniebach Tue 26-Jul-16 14:36:32

Children do misbehave, annoying I agree but some adults think they have the right to chastise a child not related to them , they do not . The man was in the wrong .

Penstemmon Tue 26-Jul-16 14:26:58

It is not for a child to ignore a reasonable request from an adult either. I agree an over reaction and the guard should have been called & other passengers back the man might have made the kids see sense..but we do not know what the children said to the guy. My big objection is the press reaction. The boys need to know that, whilst the man should not have been physical, they have to follow rules and one is to behave appropriately on a train. The papers are making them out to be innocent lambs cruelly assaulted!

Anniebach Tue 26-Jul-16 14:06:17

It is not for a stranger to approach and man handle a child , he abused the child , he broke the law ,

TriciaF Tue 26-Jul-16 13:58:32

If there's a guard on the train, best to call him to sort it out.
Very provoking though, we all know what children of that age can be like.

Penstemmon Tue 26-Jul-16 13:54:45

Draconian viewpoint Anniebach And the rude and inconsiderate children?

Anniebach Tue 26-Jul-16 13:48:26

He should be charged for assaulting a child , given a short prison sentence and every time he broke one rule be put in an arm lock.

Penstemmon Tue 26-Jul-16 13:39:40

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3705954/Shocking-moment-pensioner-train-puts-young-boy-arm-lock-child-refused-feet-seats.html

AIBU to think the pensioner had a point??? Some papers are calling it shocking etc etc. but would also be 'shocked' by kids being rude and disrespectful.
I do not really agree with physical restraint /punishment for children ...but they might think twice next time...if the stupid media do not make them out to be 'victims' and martyrs!!