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To expect people to return things they've borrowed?

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Christinefrance Mon 21-Nov-16 08:55:21

Yes that is so annoying, you are not unreasonable at all. I especially hate it if books are not returned so now I only lend them to friends I can trust to return them in the same condition they got them. I never lend books to smokers. Recently I lent money to a friend who said he would work it off doing my garden, I have to keep chasing him up to do this which is demeaning to both of us.

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rubylady Sun 20-Nov-16 23:46:28

I have had things which I have lent out and never got back and yes, it is very annoying. I would rather someone ask for me to give it to them than think that they are not giving it me back. It is a form of stealing to me. I have had family members "borrow" money and then not give it back. Just ask if I can spare some and they could have had it, for keeps.

Now I don't lend anyone anything. If anyone wants anything I would rather buy them the thing (depending on the amount, of course). grin

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mrsmopp Sun 20-Nov-16 22:46:26

Nothing terribly valuable, I'm only talking about maybe books or DVDs I have lent to friends and never seen again. I drop a hint-'did you enjoy the book/DVD?' and they reply 'Oh yes, I keep forgetting to give it back!' Then it gets forgotten again.
Of course I could just let it go, but it's annoying because I always return things quickly myself. It's bad manners though isn't it? I don't feel I can keep on asking for it back.

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