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Anya Thu 01-Dec-16 16:31:10

I'm not well. I just want to be left in peace to quietly die or post on GN, whichever is the lesser of two evils.

DH just asked what I want for tea. Told him I'm not hungry.

So next he asks what he can have for tea!

FFS we have a freezer full of food, can't he just go away and find something for himself.

Is it me, or are your DH's just as useless when your not there to .tell them what to do make suggestions? confused

stillaliveandkicking Sun 04-Dec-16 21:30:07

Happy foraging smile

DanniRae Sun 04-Dec-16 20:37:59

tchangry !!!

DanniRae Sun 04-Dec-16 20:36:49

If I forage It'll be cheese, biscuits and an apple. If my husband forages it'll be something like a sausage sandwich or bacon and eggs. Guess who is nice and slim and who isn't?

He'll eat a couple of doughnuts mid afternoon and I'll have rich tea biscuits.

Life is so unfair, eh?

(It's him whose slim BTW) [tchangry)

stillaliveandkicking Sun 04-Dec-16 19:25:24

What do you mean by forage? do you go into the woods and collect strange things to eat?

grannyactivist Fri 02-Dec-16 01:59:19

Anya flowersHope you're soon feeling better.

N&G The Wonderful Man has made himself rice pudding sandwiches before now (to use up leftovers) and probably wouldn't turn a hair to find something unusual in a sandwich. However he cooks most of his own meals nowadays as our schedules and diets are very different at the moment.

Synonymous Fri 02-Dec-16 01:45:31

PS Hope you feel better soon Anya flowers

Synonymous Fri 02-Dec-16 01:43:53

Anya I get the perennial decision making question on what we are going to eat and it drives me mad. I seem to have the opposite situation to most on here!
I like pretty simple food but DH likes all the bells and whistles sauces, accompaniments and coatings. I shouldn't complain at all since DH does the cooking nowadays but he gets so complicated and aims for such perfection that it is exhausting. He does enjoy cooking and is very good at it which is fantastic but sometimes all you want/need is a steak or a chop flashed in the grill and thrown on a plate with a bit of salad. For example one of his friends came round with some fish after one of his fishing trips and I was salivating about something simple like it being quickly fried in butter but then out came the recipe books! I could have cried! I don't mean to whinge but I would love something plain and simple but he gets complicated and then he gets so tired and then I feel so guilty. hmm
I know! I should be much more grateful and accept whatever comes with a good grace! blush

Synonymous Fri 02-Dec-16 01:36:38

N&G Just loved that sandwich filling idea! Best giggle of the day/night! grin

gillybob Thu 01-Dec-16 22:21:41

Fish fingers, oven chips and peas are my (not so) secret favourite supper Anya served with with lashings of tomato ketchup . smile

Deedaa Thu 01-Dec-16 21:58:09

In all the years we have been married I think DH has made me u cup pf tea on about 4 occasions. Each time I was too ill to drink anything, let alone his idea of tea! When I have suggested that he should make his own coffee he tells me it is so much nicer when someone else makes it. He is incapable of seeing that I might feel the same.

If I go out for the day I will come home to find that he has not bothered to go to the fridge and get the lunch I left for him, he will have had nothing to drink and will probably have forgotten his insulin! And this man has somehow survived long enough to retire!

Luckygirl Thu 01-Dec-16 21:27:36

Toady I had to go to rehearsal at 6 pm and switched the oven on and put some duck legs in. I asked him if he would prepare the vegetables to go with it - how do you do that? he asked. To be fair I told him what to do and he did it. He is 70! Hmm.

ffinnochio Thu 01-Dec-16 20:35:31

Mr.Ffinn and I often chat first thing in the morning about our plans for the day. Sometimes I say that I'm not cooking, I'll forage. Sometimes he'll say I'm not cooking, I'll forage. It depends upon our plans.
Job done. We both forage as and when. We both cook as and when.
#nopressure

petra Thu 01-Dec-16 20:24:13

I haven't cooked or shopped for food for over 20 years. Even when OH goes on 'boys' holidays he makes sure the freezer is full.

cornergran Thu 01-Dec-16 20:12:47

Sorry, meant to sat get better soon Anya.

cornergran Thu 01-Dec-16 20:10:51

Still grinning n&g. Why didn't I think of that? Mr C will cook, but never when I plan to eat it smile.

sunseeker Thu 01-Dec-16 19:29:05

One day early in our marriage I was feeling particularly unwell, when I told my DH he said that I should go to bed AFTER I had made him dinner!!!!! Soon cured him of that one. He progressed to bringing me coffee in bed every morning and breakfast in bed every Sunday smile

Anya Thu 01-Dec-16 19:17:51

PS Love it about custard and dog biscuits
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Anya Thu 01-Dec-16 19:17:13

Cunco I'll try that when or if I ever recover.

DH cooked himself fish fingers, oven chips and peas! grin

I'm off to bed now and hopefully the Nightnurse I just took will knock me out dissolved as it was in whisky and I'll be a new woman in the morning.....shall I come back under a different name too? wink only kidding.

delirium is setting in

shysal Thu 01-Dec-16 19:14:33

Can't stop laughing N&G! grin

fiorentina51 Thu 01-Dec-16 18:38:33

I have to admit DH has taken over in the kitchen, much to my delight. I sometimes have to decide what's on the menu but not often. I actually enjoy cooking for large groups but get bored with everyday cooking for two. It works for us. ๐Ÿ˜€

shandi6570 Thu 01-Dec-16 18:30:47

Oh NanaandGrampy that is a classic, can't stop laughing. Think I will have to try it as well, men, can't live with them, can't live without them, although I sometimes want to try grin

gillybob Thu 01-Dec-16 18:24:36

I really must try that one NanaandGrampy grin

NanaandGrampy Thu 01-Dec-16 18:23:01

Grampy stopped saying ' anything ' early in our marriage after saying that very thing in answer to my question ' what would you like in your sandwiches ?'

He was quite surprised to get one with custard and one with dog biscuits ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„

Problem solved !

phoenix Thu 01-Dec-16 18:19:48

I'm quite lucky, Mr P will often take over cooking, and doesn't do a bad job at all.

We both have the lurgy at the moment, so have been dividing the labour, however the washing up seems to often come my way!

In all fairness, he often says "leave that, I'll do it" but as I'm loitering in the kitchen listening to The Archers, I may as well run a sink of water and do it, hate coming down to last nights dishes (no dish washer, unfortunately)

gillybob Thu 01-Dec-16 18:19:32

I totally sympathise Anya . I ask DH what he fancies for dinner "anything" comes the reply. Okay then I will make a shepherds pie "I don't fancy that" well how about a curry "we had curry last Thursday"

I THOUGHT YOU BLOODY WELL SAID ANYTHING !!!