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To hate buying, giving and receiving gifts

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Tennisnan Mon 26-Dec-16 16:23:58

Increasingly I'm finding I hate anything to do with gift giving and receiving. I get paralysed with indecision when choosing - have they got one already, will it have a hidden message, is it too cheap, too expensive. Even worse is being given a wrapped present and expected to open in front of the giver - oh no, they've spent so much on something I won't use, don't like, already have, or its so inappropriate, are they sending a hidden message, or why are they buying something so tacky that I know they would never have it in their own home. Do my "oohs and aahs, it's lovely" comments sound genuine? Oh I wish I could just stop it all except where small children are concerned. Then, the more handmade (to receive) and exactly matching mum's instructions (to give) - the better.

Tennisnan Wed 28-Dec-16 16:50:33

I admire your strength of personality Charleygirl.

Tennisnan Wed 28-Dec-16 16:53:10

I envy you Rosesarered, I feel like I should enjoy the process but I just don't. I agree with those that saying I'm over thinking it too.

Tennisnan Wed 28-Dec-16 16:54:23

Thanks for your comments Iam64

Tennisnan Wed 28-Dec-16 16:55:40

You're right Anya, I'll try

Tennisnan Wed 28-Dec-16 16:58:10

Exactly Carerof123, it makes you feel bad when you're supposed to feel good.

Jalima Wed 28-Dec-16 18:08:43

I enjoy choosing and giving presents - more than receiving them in fact.

However, we exchange gifts with a couple of friends and I'd like to stop it because he is so ungrateful and in fact downright rude (not just about the gifts, rude in general). I am now trying to pluck up the courage to put a stop to it.