One Long Moan

Oh dear, Granny 23. I missed your rant first time round, but I'm sorry to hear about your travails. Hope you're feeling better now and managing to spend at least some of February resting in peace, although with your DH's problems, that might be optimistic.

You write beautifully. How is your cold, gone I hope?

What a time you have had Granny23. Hope your cough and cold have finally departed. My friend had a never ending cough which turned out to be brought on by her blood pressure tablets, stopped the tablets cough gone.

I sometimes feel our generation of grandparents maybe healthier richer than the previous generation, but we do seem to do a lot more childcare duties, so that our grown up children can have the things and lifestyle they want. Just saying.

Yes.... So important it needs to be said 'thrice'! Sorry - not sure how that happened .

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Oh Granny23 how I sympathise as I too have the same -problems- joys. Christmas is over - wahey!!!- but now my family have the January/February birthdays ie cakes, parties, meals - guess where? Yes at Mum's/Gran's! Of course the school runs, football, gymnastics, athletics pickups and attends or school events can easily be fitted in too. Homeworks - easy - a Viking shield and Astronaut project this week, plus reading books, my best event and tables practice.

Maybe we need a support group - oh sorry we wouldn't have time. Maybe 'ranting' is the only relief!!

Small mercies, at least I don't have a DH to consider.

Having read through this thread again, I am counting my blessings, because I spend the festive season staying with one or other of my sons' families and usually feel mildly guilty because it's (almost) all done for me. But there was a time....

Hope you are feeling better, OP ...sorry to have laughed out loud...my bad

Sympathetic, amused and full of admiration! No "facile advice," but a couple of questions. Have you seen a doctor about this long cold? And have your DDs ever thought of hiring a childminder or someone to take their kids to and from school?

merlotgran and Granny 23......first did a good rant feel better? If I may venture a comment (but feel free to bite me back) maybe next year one of the big meals could be done by others, but at your home if thats where you like it?

Myself and my sister once did the Christmas lunch for 12 as my Mum was ill, I was 20, my sister 18. I have never told anyone we added some Cinzano Bianco to the gravy, but thats another story.

WEATHER STATIONS - I fancy one, where were yours purchased?

Moving on...

Granny23* to use a good Scottish saying"you must be scunnerit(fed up and worn out) I always find a bloody good rant the way to go, and we are here to listen. I think you will also find that if you read the thread on here about ^mothers sayings^you will feel much better
Dont forget to tell the world to sod off as you want not just a duvet day now but at the end of the year you are having a duvet December&

Yes, good idea for everybody to maybe start helping out in return until you get better. You're obviously a strong lady but you can't do it all at least for now.

Granny23 only just read your post from 12-Jan-17 01:03:26. I can only offer my heartfelt sympathies. How hard must it be when you don't have your DH there is body and mind to support you at your time of life.

I am sorry to hear that your DH is suffering from deteriorating abilities. I can imagine that you both worked together to make these wonderful family xmases in the past and now you are trying to do it all yourself, even when you are having to do things for him and are not feeling well.

Your family obviously love coming to your home for great meals and good company. How about getting them all to bring contributions ( eg mince pies, puddings) and asking them to help (peeling veg etc). If your grandchildren are primary school age they could help too (laying the table, washing up?)

You deserve a rest and you should ask for help. Take care and don't wear yourself out.

Oh Granny23 I thought I had a hectic life until I read your (very amusing) posts.

Firstly I can totally sympathise with the dreaded cold/cough. I have had my cough for over 3 weeks with no sign of it getting better soon. In fact I have almost come to the conclusion that it is now "part of me" and I might have to live with it forever. I might start introducing myself as the amazing barking mad lady.

Secondly. Christmas dinner. I have always cooked the "main event" for the family but after losing my grandma and mum, we all said that Christmas would not be the same and decided to eat out this year. Whilst everyone paid for themselves we all paid "over the top" for nothing special and like your brood, mine also said that my dinners were far better and that we should "go back to normal, next time". I chose to take this as a compliment but the cynical side of me thinks that no-one wanted to go to that expense again as they eat and drink for free at mine.

I do hope you get a little time to relax soon. and to you. x

What's "wooding?"

This is why I said 'No facile suggestions' please. If I were to take to my bed as suggested I would a)starve b)be unable to sleep due to coughing, restless leg + arm and constant interruptions to assist DH with buttons, finding things he has mislaid, resetting the TV after he has pressed the wrong buttons, confirming that it is not bin day, etc. etc.

There is no window cleaner in our village. Anyway money is tight and we have recently had to shell out for tradesmen to replace windows, cut hedges, disconnect and remove the gas fire after DH got distracted and left it on but not lit. DD2 and I came up with an ingenious solution to filling the gap left in the fireplace where the brand new electric fire (more expense) now looks lovely. DH has yet to master the, very simple, controls so it is either off or like a furnace in the glassworks. We are even having to buy logs for the other open fire, as my efforts are insufficient to keep up the regular supply provided by DH when he was fit.

Our DDs both have children at primary school who need to be delivered to school at 9 and collected at 3.00. Both have their own businesses and work full time. Both dads also work full time+. They do what the can to help us e.g. they repainted the kitchen and toilet after the windows were replaced and will bravely put up or fetch down things from the loft since I took a panic attack up there and had to lie on the floor until I calmed down and was able to get on to the ladder to descend to terra firma with DH flapping about like a headless chicken - he can't do ladders now with only one working arm and constant dizziness.

I remember only too well what it was like when we were both full time, and then some, workers, with shared responsibility for my Mum and Aunt with my sister and sole responsibility for DH's Mum, Dad, and Aunt who were all in and out of hospital simultaneously and needing help with everything. I will not inflict that stress on my daughters and while accepting help that is willingly offered, will continue to say 'Nae sae bad' when they ask how I am.

Everyone remarked that it was not nearly as good as my usual homecooked dinner - I think that was meant to compliment me but it only served to make me feel a failure.
Absolutely certain this was a compliment to you!
But otherwise very amusing post!

PS why not treat yourself to a window cleaner - sounds like youve more than enough other tasks to keep you busy!

Yes it would be a good idea to put yourself first and let others do the running. You deserve a rest.

Don't know how you do it time to look after yourself a bit now . Your rant made me smile though ?