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One Long Moan

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Granny23 Sat 07-Jan-17 22:12:08

AIBU? or am I justified in feeling totally, utterly, absolutely fed up? I have had the never ending cold since the middle of December with family and friends remarking that my cough sounds awful and I am the colour of a sheet of paper. This has not stopped them asking for lifts, school pick-ups, attendance at school concerts and extra shifts in the Christmas shop (to cover for people who were unwell or attending school concerts etc.)

As usual I bought, wrapped the Christmas presents, put up the decorations and shopped for and hosted Brunch for 8 on Christmas morning and 9 on Boxing day + a buffet for 7 on Hogmanay. There was consternation when I announced that I did not feel up to cooking New Year Dinner for 9 of us (including 2 veggies) and requiring the big dinner service currently lodged on the top of a big cupboard. I suggested that we might go out to a restaurant/hotel which the DDs booked. There we had a mediocre meal at enormous expense (I paid). Everyone remarked that it was not nearly as good as my usual homecooked dinner - I think that was meant to compliment me but it only served to make me feel a failure.

Since New Year, I have changed all the bedding again (we had o'night guests) taken down the decorations and seeing that the windows were filthy I washed them (now clean but streaky) and got soaked in the process - window cleaning was always one of DH's jobs - he is 9" taller than me - which he can no longer do. Also took down washed and rehung the nets. I helped with the clear out of the Christmas Shop, with DH in tow, completed his tax return with difficulty and paid it, did one school pick-up, entertained and fed the DGC, went wooding and chopped kindlings and logs, did the shopping, cooking, washing, cleaning as per usual and spent an inordinate amount of time looking for things DH has 'Lost'.

The DDs were very kind to us presentwise at Christmas but fail to realise that giving their father a weather station, a mushroom growing kit and a leaf blower, far from keeping him entertained just creates more work for me as he cannot follow the instructions but gets very anxious that his new toys must be put to use asap, so I have added mushroom farming, leaf blowing and sooking (the damn machine is bigger than me) and checking inside and outside temperatures several times daily to my workload.

I sat down for a rest this evening after an exhausting day and my restless leg kicked in. However I had to go for a walk anyway as DH spilt the last of the milk by dropping the whole carton into the cat's dish.

If anyone has got this far - thanks for listening - but if anyone comes on with facile suggestions of the 'you should do such and such' variety they are liable to get their nose to play with. I do feel the better for writing it down and having taken my pill the restless leg has subsided and I can Rest in Peace.

Ana Sat 07-Jan-17 22:15:09

Oh, Granny23, I have read your post and truly sympathise - but it did make me laugh! smile

Ana Sat 07-Jan-17 22:17:10

Due to your wonderful style of writing, I hasten to add...oh dear, perhaps I shouldn't have said anything. But at least no well-meaning advice from me!

Jalima Sat 07-Jan-17 22:24:23

I feel worn out just reading it and have resolved not to moan about my cough, my sore feet, knees, the post-Christmas clearup etc any more
flowers already in one of those water containers so you don't have to look for a vase.

Now you need to give yourself some tlc, get the DD to set up the weather station, plant the mushrooms and ask who is 'doing Christmas and New Year this year?'.

Ooh sorry, shouldn't interfere, I just can't help it.
One of my favourite books when I was a child was 'Susan Interferes'.

Luckygirl Sat 07-Jan-17 22:26:39

Blimey! Never a dull moment! Hope you feel better for a rant!

bellsisabelle Sat 07-Jan-17 22:27:20

Crikey Granny23! And I thought I had been doing a lot over the laST FEW WEEKS! nOWHERE NEAR YOU. lOVELY TO HEAR SOMEONE STILL GOES WOODING THOUGH. wE USED TO DO THAT YEARS AGO. []smile]

I am sorry that went shouty in parts. I have a new keyboard and I am fed up with going back and correcting stuff. So Ihave decided to judt let it stand.

I hope you get a good night's sleep. x

merlotgran Sat 07-Jan-17 22:30:06

Granny23, You may be glad to know that DH is driving me insane with his new obsession. He has also been given a weather station and whether I like it or not I have to listen to regular updates on indoor/outdoor temperatures, humidity and the phase of the blasted moon. As if I care.

I'm amazed you've managed to survive. grin

Hope your cough gets better soon.

grannyqueenie Sat 07-Jan-17 22:33:51

Flippin' heck, you must be exhausted.... I am and I only slouched on the sofa reading about it all! Rant away, it's cathartic!

Coolgran65 Sat 07-Jan-17 22:35:28

I sympathise with the entire content of your post ... you and your dh are obviously well loved and a pleasure to be with. I have no advice as I'm in a similar position.....love it most of the time but get fed up with the work it entails.

I can even empathize with your restless legs. As a sufferer of 30+ years with symptoms in arms and legs 24/7 I dare not be without my medication.

Sorry about your last carton of milk !!

And may you rest in peace in the nicest possible way.

DaphneBroon Sat 07-Jan-17 22:36:59

Despite an entirely deserved moan, you seem to have retained your sense of humour - God alone knows how, but is it not time to put the size 5 (foot) firmly down and say you are passing the hospitality/unpaid B&B/hotel open all hours baton on to the next generation (taking my life into my hands here)
Strike while the iron of your fed upness is hot and come next November or December you only need to say "But don't you remember? "
And don't weaken!!!

paddyann Sat 07-Jan-17 23:01:04

make yourself a large hot toddy,with whisky ,honey lemon and lemonade ,take two paracetamol ,drink toddy and head to bed ,hope you feel better tomorrow,but on a cautionary note my OH had that cough/cold for a whole 8 weeks

Granny23 Sat 07-Jan-17 23:06:58

I should have mentioned that while DD1 and Son-out-law were doing Christmas dinner at her house for his parents, we were invited to DD2 and SIL's for Christmas dinner as we have been for the last few years. SIL is a wonderful cook and does an amazing Yorkshire style roast with gravy and Yorkshire puddings Unfortunately, their oven packed in on Christmas day so a half cooked large joint of pork and a still raw chicken were rushed to us at 15.00, cooked by me and returned piping hot to their house by us at 17.30, along with the raspberry pavlovas that I was taking anyway.

Anya Sat 07-Jan-17 23:19:51

Oh Granny23 I really do sympathise, but next time can you not write so humorously as I'm really trying not to laugh at your style, not your predicament.

cornergran Sat 07-Jan-17 23:30:23

Blimey, pure chaos. Love your humour, admire your ability to remain sane. Seriously I think our families forget we aren't invincible. Maybe time to tell them? Sympathise with that cough/cold, 5 weeks here, I call it my boomerang bug. Wishing you a cough free night.

Judthepud2 Sun 08-Jan-17 00:04:10

You're exhausted Granny23? I'm exhausted even reading your post! Seriously though, I would just do what Paddyann suggested and take your cough to bed for a few days. You deserve a rest.

Antonia Sun 08-Jan-17 02:33:34

I can see that in your case, time might be a bit limited, but have you thought of writing a book? You have such a witty and heartfelt style of writing and I can see a chapter emerging on "Christmas with my relatives" already. grin. (Leave my nose alone please, it's just a suggestion).

absent Sun 08-Jan-17 04:14:19

Trouble is that the better you are, the more capable you are, the more willing you are, the stronger you are, no one ever realises that you have too much to cope with and everybody takes you for granted. Quite a few years ago when I was feeling rather like you are now, a dear and very wise friend said to me, "It's not the weak ones we should worry about; it's the strong ones".

Grannyben Sun 08-Jan-17 08:58:21

I hate to say it but you do seem to have made us all laugh on this miserable morning. Could you perhaps add cheering up gransnetters to your list. On the other side, as with everyone else, I do sympathise and send get well wishes to you brewcupcake

kittylester Sun 08-Jan-17 09:12:53

I'm laughing too - while recognising the scenario. It's great while we can do it but comes back to bite us on the bum when we can't! One of my Sisters in law has announced that she has done her bit and it's time for the next generation but that seems a huge step to me - yet!

Please sit down for a while today!

JackyB Sun 08-Jan-17 09:29:31

I am speechless with admiration that you did all that whilst suffering from a cough. I hope that venting it on here has given you some relief, but please now take time off for yourself and your convalescence.

I can't believe how helpless some men are. My hubbie drives me mad the way he empties the dishwasher, but at least he does it. (He's another one who bores me with temperature data, too. But he went out and shovelled the snow this morning whilst I sat in a nice hot bath. I suppose I'm lucky.)

downtoearth Sun 08-Jan-17 09:36:40

Granny seems to me that you have too much time on your hands and suggest you find a hobby to stop you getting bored I would suggest maybe meteorology or gardening as your daughters kindly provided the idea and instruments for your husband ..maybe a joint hobby.I can see you have many long hours spent being inactive and suggest maybe rock climbing or hang gliding to get the blood flowing.
It is difficult not knowing what to do with yourself when at a loose end and I wish you luck with finding something to occupy yourselfgringrin

Only jesting if you want something done ask a busy person ...hope you feel better soon and can get a much needed break for yourself flowerscupcake

FarNorth Sun 08-Jan-17 09:49:59

Take time off Granny23!
Very entertaining moan but it's clear you are wearing yourself out. Stop it!

rosesarered Sun 08-Jan-17 10:02:37

You have presented this problem amusingly ( for our benefit) but you do sound as if you have had enough.Having had the never ending cough myself for about 6 weeks now at least and which turned into a streaming cold a few days ago I do sympathise with you.Apart from some entertaining family for a few days over Christmas, I then refused to do anything more since.You need to take care of your DH......anyone else can wait ( and maybe look after you for a change?)💐

Jalima Sun 08-Jan-17 10:49:37

Actually, if you do have a good rest now you may get better more quickly.
DH was ill with food poisoning years ago and 'kept trying to work it off' - after 3 weeks he went to the GP because he still felt so ill and the GP said 'take a week off and rest, you are sending it round and round your body'.

#Susaninterferes

harrigran Sun 08-Jan-17 11:23:26

I feel for you Granny23, I did not arrange Christmas dinner out and I did not cook at home. I was amused to read on FB that DD had announced that she had cooked her first Christmas dinner in thirty years, I hasten to add it was only for herself and DH.
You need some TLC to help you recover but we better not hold our breath.