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To not like nail polish on little girls?

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Hopehope Tue 11-Apr-17 00:04:28

My DGD who is three and a half always seems to have nail polish on. I don't say anything, but I think it is a terrible idea. I once just said " Oh nail polish!", DIL said that is it special stuff for kiddies from Boots, not harmful to the nails.

As I said I didn't comment, life is too short, but I think little girls should be little girls, plenty of time for all that later.

what does anyone else think>?

Jalima1108 Wed 12-Apr-17 10:23:35

I'm glad I don't have to decide what they wear and when, their mums decide
grin
My DGD seem to decide themselves some of the time which can result in some strange combinations!

felice Wed 12-Apr-17 11:30:40

DGS age 5 always wanted a little make up put on if DD or I wear putting it on(not often).Then on Sunday morning he was watching me slap a bit of powder on and when i asked him if he wanted some on he ran horrified out of the bathroom.
He is a big boy now and thats for girls,,,,quote.

trisher Wed 12-Apr-17 11:37:10

My DGD decides for her self sometimes as well but has to be checked, she has decided occasionally that she didn't want to wear any knickers.
Was thinking about nail varnish. It is usual now for women to have their nails done, wasn't when I was growing up, so maybe it's just a sign of the times.

annodomini Wed 12-Apr-17 11:51:52

My GDs are now old enough to do their own nails which I don't object to. What I do abhor are those ripped jeans and they can buy them ready-ripped! I ask you!

Ilovecheese Wed 12-Apr-17 12:11:29

Until about the 18th century, children were dressed as miniature adults, so you could say that clothing designed specifically for children is fairy recent in the history of the world.

About chipped nail varnish on children, yes, it doesn't look very nice but perhaps their mothers are reluctant to use varnish remover on young nails, because it often contains acetone.

Nandalot Wed 12-Apr-17 18:25:49

This thread is very appropriate today as both of my twin DGC, six last week, wanted nail varnish on today. One boy and one girl. But sparkly silver for the boy and sparkly pink for the girl so still some gender differences. They are only allowed it occasionally, perhaps once a holiday.

marionk Wed 12-Apr-17 18:27:10

Way better than little one with pierced ears imho

Anya Wed 12-Apr-17 19:02:12

* These days we are only allowed to hold a view if it is right ! A very scary mind set for society to hold*

Rubbish!

jacq10 Wed 12-Apr-17 19:17:38

Haven't experienced any requests re nail polish from my 7yr old GS but remember going to pick up a kitchen for him and the father of the family selling it was there along with 3yr old son (same age as my GS at the time) and his 8yr old daughter. When I asked if he didn't want to keep it for his son he said "No way is he playing with a kitchen it's his sister's!" I was just trying to encourage GS as his Dad was always with me in the kitchen and is an excellent cook.

Hopehope Thu 13-Apr-17 00:09:25

I am not saying this is right or wrong Anya, it is for the parents to decide. I have not mentioned it to them one way or the other. I don't like to see it though, that is my own opinion.

Anya Thu 13-Apr-17 06:52:05

Hopehope my last post was a quote from another poster who sees the world in black and white.

Re the nail varnish; it doesn't bother me if the child in question wants to do it themselves, but I'd worry if the parent was the person doing the choosing.

I have very strong views on bringing up girls to be mighty as you may understand from this.

grannypiper Thu 13-Apr-17 09:17:14

Anya you are the one that commented on the post printmiss left. If a view is not similar to yours its rubbish in your eyes.

Anya Thu 13-Apr-17 09:27:17

No, dearly, you used the term rubbish not I.

Anya Thu 13-Apr-17 09:28:35

See how you distort and twist things and stir up trouble...

Anya Thu 13-Apr-17 09:29:22

Towards PRINTMISS

Anya Thu 13-Apr-17 09:31:02

You said These days we are only allowed to hold a view if it is right ! A very scary mind set for society to hold

I commented that that is rubbish and it is, saying that.

grannypiper Thu 13-Apr-17 16:30:57

Anya Wednesday 12th April @ 19:02:12 !

Jalima1108 Thu 13-Apr-17 17:04:14

Personally I worry about women being pummelled in boxing, clashing in rugby, etc., and the trend to drink like the men on occasions.
PRINTMISS I agree about the boxing, although I do know women who play rugby and DD was very miffed to find out that girls could not play rugby at senior school as she had played for the primary school team.
And the drinking to oblivion is a very worrying trend for both young women and young men.
Women on the front line in war hmm

I'm probably old-fashioned too.

notanan Fri 14-Apr-17 00:12:12

Kid nail varnish is goopy and rubbish not thin and solventey - it peels off so you don't need to use strong chemicals to remove it

It's no different to face paints. Its just art/creativity. I don't see nail varnish as particularly sexual on adults so don't think of it that way on children. As many little boys like it as little girls so it's not even a gender problem. It's colourful and fun and I don't think it looks at all grown-up/adultey.

notanan Fri 14-Apr-17 00:20:00

I'm also old enough to be a nan although I'm not, and I ocassionally liked to get my nails painted as a young kid. I grew up to become someone who enjoyed art not fashions/trends. I'm not at all into my appearance, I do like colour though and am quite creative.

It's fine. It's better than face painting actually because you can't see/enjoy your own face.

Hopehope Fri 14-Apr-17 00:38:24

Oh dear
Who would have though that a simple comment, and question about little ones wearing nail polish would stir up such a storm !

I think I am off to bed, perchance to dream, and with any luck wake up to sunshine

Saggi Fri 14-Apr-17 14:27:19

No we don't encourage boys to push prams with dolls. Why...because it's all so boring!!! Enough time for prams when they're 30+. Football ,swimming and hat you like to call boys' games are much more FUN, just as they have always been!!

MawBroon Fri 14-Apr-17 14:45:17

Poor PRINTMISS!! Apart from the fact that it was Grannypiper who made the comment, I feel Printmiss has been demonised because her views are perceived as out of date, or unacceptable in our age of equality.
I also disagree with much of what PRINTMISS says but that is her opinion and she is entirely entitled to express it. (Not keen on women's Boxing either and the attraction of rugby is incomprehensible . Dread the DGSs (7,5) getting injured as they get older)
To go back to OP, we can be too quick to judge people by the externals -nail varnish or pierced ears on little girls, blue or pink hair, body piercings or tattoos on older ones. But we should not make these judgements
A million years ago I was adamant that tattoos and any body piercings were the hallmark of "cheap" , that was until DD3 got a belly button ring AND also a tiny Chinese tattoo on her lower back. I think she was 18. DD2 also came back from Art College with a nose stud and pink streaks in her hair one holiday.
Shock, horror.
Had either of them changed from the loving , clever, talented and lovely girls they had been before? Of course not!!
The piercings gradually disappeared over the following years and the tattoo is all but invisible. But so what?
I am sure they all played with nail varnish but it is hardly an issue, is it?
Chill, Grans, chill.

petra Fri 14-Apr-17 16:01:39

MawBroon Oh how true Re judging people. My step daughter is working with Sadiq Khan for the next couple of weeks on a new app he wants to develope.
She has a leg and arm sleeve ( tattoos) Then there's something printed from her ear to her neck. But she's brilliant at her job, dressmaking and making quirky cakes.

Ilovecheese Fri 14-Apr-17 16:15:10

Yes, how true about judging people. I walked to a bus stop once, where there were a group of rather rough looking young lads, they were effing and jeffing and I was busy judging. Then the bus came, the lads all stood back and one of them said "yes, let this lady get on first" I felt ashamed of myself.