I still get irritated by this - AIBU to hate being referred to as a 'girl'...

When I was about 48 and working alongside a woman of the same age a 20-something man used to come into our office and jointly address us as "young ladies" constantly throughout a conversation. It irritated us both and we asked him to stop it.

He was a bit hurt and surprised and said he thought we would like it and be flattered! We explained that it was irritating and patronising and we weren't in need of flattery. When asked he admitted that he wouldn't dream of addressing the female director as young lady, and she was young.

Again, all about context.

The expression I DO find patronising is 'young lady'. I am 72. Don't mind being called a girl though!

.........^reading for affect rather than what is written^ (Monday 23.00)

I don't think "affect" can even BE a noun

But GGMk2 to say yet again I have no idea what you are talking about MawBroon...
that is unworthy

I and my friends sometimes refer to ourselves as "the old fogeys" or "old bats".
That doesn't mean we'd want to be addressed that way by someone else.

It appears there are at least a couple of pompous twits on here. I am more than happy to be classed as one of the "girls"and don't have a problem with being one of the "ladies" either. I neither feel that the first is infantalising me nor the other is inappropriate in this day and age. I much prefer these forms of address to being called a miserable old git behind my back. My daughter and daughters-in-law, all between mid 40s and early 50s, always refer to themselves as '"the girls" when they are arranging an evening out.

Yet again I have no idea what you are talking about MawBroon. Did I mean "effect" where?

Did you mean "effect" GGMk2?

As for grumpy old women maybe grumpy old girls??
If OP's "rather nice chap" was getting on a bit, OP's 50 year old friend could have been young enough to be his daughter. Surely "girls" is excusable in the context??
I do find the "Hi" disconcerting though. Even as a child I was not allowed to use it to grown ups, it being only permissible among school friends ?
Surely it is better manners to say "Good morning " - ?

It could well be grammatically incorrect or spelt incorrectly Jalima although I do spend an inordinate amount of time trying to ensure it isn't.

Or, MawBroon, another version of a grumpy old women.

Honestly some people on this forum must get up especially early to get as much annoyed as possible into the day. The things people object too! Sounds like grumpy old women to me

... and coming on to a thread especially to tell those freely expressing an opinion is ...?
Is also expressing an opinion

Well, as I haven't been on here tonight until now then how would you know?

Perhaps if your post made some sense I could understand it.
But it doesn't.
Unless, of course, it is just grammatically incorrect or spelt incorrectly.

Not a lot seems to for you tonight Jalima.

Thankyou nannypink1!

She's another poster
Apologies BonnieBlooming I missed your post

don't know what you're on about

reading for affect doesn't make sense

BonnieBlooming Mon 01-May-17 21:16:22. That is where the quote came from.

No Jalima - you seem to be reading for affect rather than what is written

Who's Bonnieblooming?

Bonnie blooming heather?

loo?
is it wrong to say loo now?


I will be sent to Room 101

I know that Jalima so why should BonnieBlooming, who I quoted, feel we need to be criticised for offering an opinion? I am really not sure what you are complaining about.

woman: generic word for a female human being
lady: a woman of refined behaviour and speech

Mrs Bucket comes to mind. It seems to me that 'ladies' is a left over from the classism of the past - and loos.

Yes, but GGMK2, the OP asked a question
Am I Being Unreasonable?

and people are answering.

Honestly some people on this forum must get up especially early to get as much annoyed as possible into the day. The things people object too! Sounds like grumpy old women to me.

... and coming on to a thread especially to tell those freely expressing an opinion is ...?

I often refer to my friends as girls...I'm going out with the girls. Can't see anything wrong with it...quite like it tbh

Caro 1954...Am I Being Unreasonable

I must have missed the memo that said we should be offended by the word ladies. I still see it as just a polite version of the word women. What's patronising about it?