I still get irritated by this - AIBU to hate being referred to as a 'girl'...

& Devon it's "my lover
Ah yes, I could have got extremely offended when I moved to Devon to be asked by lots of men I didn't know 'All right me lover?' as they served me in the market/filled my petrol tank etc etc

Oh my goodness Trisher you've got a bee in your bonnet. I grew up in Yorkshire & call every-one "love". In Somerset it's "my lovely" & Devon it's "my lover".Not worth getting het up about, you can call me a "girl" but I won't take offence.

The only form of address that has made me angry was being referred to as "darling" .in a very sneering, condescending manner.

I'm a strong independent woman, there are bigger battles to fight

Stop fibbing about your age *sluttygran* Your Majesty, I know for a fact you are 91

sluttygran Mon 01-May-17 14:37:18

I wasn't going to lower the tone by using the p****** word on this thread as it started off in church rosesarered

Although I cannot remember what I said about anything in my previous incarnation.

I refrained from saying that

LewLew there is only one of me

Wot, no camp followers Jalima

Jalima1108 I just saw you have numbers after your username, but in an older thread, referenced in this one, you are still Jalima. Cloning yourself?

Officers and their Ladies
Non-Commissioned Officers and their wives
Other Ranks and their Women

No mention of girls

I wonder how old this poor man was.
trisher the OP says he was 'nice' but you say he was offensive

I don't suppose he thought that her response was very nice and he will probably avoid them both in future so the problem is solved.
Voilà!

No problem with this form of address. What are the alternatives, lassies and lads?

I always thought a hinny was a kind of cake or biscuit (drop scone? Singing Hinny?)

trisher the 'poor man' was being friendly and made a mistake and was subjected to rudeness.

Now I may be a 'dinosaur' but when I was brought up manners were taught and a response like the OP's would have been considered rude.
'It's a long time since I was a girl! Actually my name's Carol and this is my friend ***' would have been more polite and perhaps he would have got the message.

But perhaps they were trying to get rid of him because he was a bore and they have probably succeeded.

It's when someone calls you an old bag you should get angry.I can't see what's so upsetting about being called a girl. Find something else to rant over.

At 69, I'm happy to be referred to as a 'girl', but I prefer to be addressed as 'Your Majesty'.

This should have been in the pedants thread...zheesh.

OP describes him as a CHAP, but she's offended at being greeted as a girl? Maybe he was influenced by the Boots beauty advert which used the music for Here Come The Girls, for women of all ages.

He certainly did not mean to be disrespectful and if he registered her reaction, likely will not greet her again at all for fear to offend.

Lighten up... OP and be glad you can get out, socialise, and have a church and a congregation to interact with. Some people are shut-ins and see no one day in and day out. They'd be happy to trade places with you just to hear a sincere cheerful greeting full-stop.

Namaste, as my neighbour greets me.

What a pompous and humourless ( and long) comment trisher the people who disagree with you are 'dinosaurs' are we?
By all means disagree, but spare us the feminist ranting.

Bluebonnie, Carol says in her OP, "My friend is 50" so "the standards of his age" are not the old fashioned ones of an 80 or 90 year old, but those of people who grew up and formed their 'standards' through the 70s, 80s and 90s when it would not have been right to belittle or infantilise women.

Pogs - I'm surprised. I looked up hinny and as well as being the Geordie pronunciation of honey, it means an ass - cross between a horse and a donkey.
Maybe it's the sound the ass makes.

So the man who used a word a woman dislikes and was corrected is regarded as a "poor man" and drenched in sympathy, whilst the woman who objected to what she saw as a derisory term, and those who agree with her are subjected to abuse and name calling. Thanks goodness for women who are outspoken and support each other recognising that it isn't acceptable to use language someone else finds offensive and that they have a perfect right to be offended and to say so. Entirely a case of victim blaming which has dogged the cause of women throughout history. I'm just amazed there are so many dinosaurs out there. Disagree with her decision by all means but don't castigate someone because they have a different view to your own and don't make a victim out of someone who was simply corrected.

But, whether he meant to be or not, he was being a chauvinist Helmsley.

Over sensitive reaction in my humble opinion. A lack empathy with the poor guy who was only trying to be pleasant by the standards of his age. Doubt if he'll dare to address OP again, for fear of being shot down in flames.

Also i absoultely detest the word hun Especially by people who dont even know me Thats really patanising. Used mostly by other women
I suppose its all realtive what greetings get up yiur nose .My long dead beloved mum always hated the word plus .She used to physcaly squirm when ut was mentioned in any context.

It doesn't bother me at all. I used to work with someone to hated it as much as you and got really upset at being called "girl"
I personally don't find it patronising at all.

Really what does it matter as long as he wasnt being a chauvenist.And if a poster posts she /he should not be castigated.Some of you on here are more than harsh Whatever the post is, its about a persons deep feelings, and you could all be a little more help in valadating the posters hurt