To worry about dying alone

Now I'm upset that all this has made me look bad when I had no idea it was happening.

Would anyone else like it if they had the police turn up just because the phone wasn't answered in a twenty and fifty minute gap?

Yes I am annoyed. I like to be private, Ann knows that. I don't want to be talked about on here when I don't know about it.

I do appreciate everything that everyone has done or said but that shouldn't mean that I can't be upset with anyone on here because you have all been so lovely.

Apart from Anya who has something against me, always has and tends to say nasty things about me, no good wishes at my operation time but plenty to say here. It's water off a ducks back Anya.

Ann I'm sorry to upset you. I haven't heard off the hospital and to be honest, I'm not in a good place to be going back just yet, it was too awful an experience to even go through the door. Thank you for your kind offer to come with me but even thinking about going to any medical person makes me feel sick. It's a wonder I get to Warfarin clinic. Part of today's problem, just wanting to be on my own, with Maggie and my bed. Please don't put anything else about me on here unless I know about it. And don't worry about me please, I'm fine. Sorry again. X

I can only think that ruby has forgotten how alone and frightened she felt when she first went into hospital and there was nobody in the outside world it seemed to care or keep her in touch with her online GN friends. It is easy when things have improved to forget how much you appreciated the support of others or take it for granted.
I am sorry it has been necessary to be so judgemental of ann and indeed hurtful.
Nobody is talking old as such on his thread, but how to ensure that those of us who live alone in an increasingly isolated or compartmentalised society can ensure we do not miss a person's non appearance with potentially tragic consequences. My next door neighbour who has 2 friendly little boys, recently went back to work with the result that we now rarely see each other in passing. She was shocked to learn that paw had been in hospital for 5 weeks.
A man I know well and used to meet on the bedtime dog walk when I had Grace lives just across the green from us. I met his wife outside the café at MKH and was horrified to hear he was also in hospital with liver cancer and this is in a village where people know each other, goodness knows what it could be like in a city.
So let's not be impatient with those who care, not choke off friendly overtures for whatever reason.
Maggie and all dogs instinctively know this for a truth. If you bite the hand that feeds you, you may end up going hungry.

Don't go annsixty

We know how much you have put yourself out to be a good friend and it is fairly reasonable to worry about someone who has been ill if you can't get hold of them.

ruby I think annsixty was just very concerned - perhaps not the best thread but I think worrying about someone who has been through what you have and who is living alone is understandable.

I hope this will soon be forgotten

Ann

Not nice to have your friendship thrown back in your face, keep posting Ann.

Ditto Ann please keep posting. At least you know who you friends are now (((hugs)))

Dear Ann, so upset for you, you have been a good and very kind friend. Carry on posting, you have more than enough to cope with and we would all miss you so much x

Sorry Ann. Crossed posts

Ann you were being caring and a very good friend. No need for regrets. Your behaviour is commendable. One does panic if one is concerned about someone and can't get an answer.

Can we draw a line under this now please.
I have obviously upset Ruby, there is nothing more to be said.

I am shocked at this uncalled for reaction.

Me too

I must confess to being shocked too !

I will also leave off posting for a while.
Ruby is not the only one shocked.

I've just checked my landline phone and Ann rang three times within twenty minutes and then posted on here, yesterday it was twice within forty minutes. Maybe the calls should have been at reasonable intervals throughout the day and left posting on a thread unless no answer to PM after a couple of days. I appreciate the concern but last week I was out two days on the trot and feel slightly baffled at being checked up on, not something I'm used to or like. Sorry, but I've had four years of being poorly, keeping myself to myself and I enjoy it now. I was just upstairs, having some time just me and my Maggie, enjoying the peace. I didn't think for one minute that everyone was panicking because I live alone and I should be worrying about dying alone. I'm thinking of living. To the full as I can. I might have health problems but I'm a long time off being old. I'm shocked by this and taking some time away from posting on threads. X

Oh Anne , you were not in the least foolish , just concerned

That should have read, 'you are a Good friend to have'

Annsixty, bless your heart, you are a hood friend to have. Take care of yourself.

I feel rather foolish ?not my usual stance have to say.

Hi all, thank you all for your concern, but I am fine and I have been fine the last few days too.

I am more achy than normal, blocked sinuses but also, my head is running on hare speed while my body is at tortoise speed and I have been overdoing things, thinking I'm ok when I'm obviously not. It's going to take some time to recover so I took myself up to my room for some peace and quiet and rest, missing the phone ringing. I didn't know or expect a phone call. That's all there was to it. I'd have had more problems with my heart if I'd had the police turning up when my son's not here yet. That's my worst nightmare!

I know this was all done through concern but I have next door's number if I do need anything or if anything is wrong and they have helped me in the past. They do make sure I am ok regularly, as does my son. We speak daily. He should be walking through the door very soon.

It will be nice to catch up properly with him, have hugs and to just be together. So I'm fine, thanks again for your concern. This could have been put on a more cheerful thread. Now I'm off to see my boy back. Take care all. X

annsixty, You are a good friend and brilliant at followup.

i am sure that my mum was talking about a device that can link a kettle to a phone or tablet. I'm seeing her tomorrow so will ask her. One of her friends is linked up to her son and he gets a message when she uses her kettle in the morning.

I have just had a reply to the PM I sent to Ruby.
She is not well at all and has been in bed or at least in her room for several days.
Her S is on his way home and will be home this evening.
I am sure she must have felt very vulnerable and alone these last few days. She will feel more assured with someone in the house.
This all points to the OP and how we need a safety net as we get older although actually Ruby is only 53 but in the same situation.
Thank you on her behalf for your concern .
As has been said before GN at its best.

Not yet. Her S did go back to Aberystwith last week but was expected back.
Maybe they have gone out.
I will try again tomorrow.

annsixty have you managed to contact ruby yet?