....to feel disappointed?

Grace - I should go out for a walk if I were you - enjoy the snow (if you have some) and get some fresh air - it is honestly not worth your expending so much emotional energy over. It is all settled now and the views of folks on here have helped with that - and also raised a smile. We understand your opinion, and have taken it on board, and thank you for contributing your view.

I have just caught up again.
May I say how honoured I am to belong to such a select band .
Just for 3 words.

Tiptoeing away quietly may be the best response now.

The fact that you have pinpointed 30 Gransnetters, says it all, if you think about , who could it be that is out of sync?

I think when you are personally denigrating me with a word you are misusing I have every right to comment Bridgeit. Attacking me seems to be your latest hobby which, rather like one of our other members, you like to do even when you have not contributed in any other way to the thread.

I just knew someone would unthinkingly come up with the - that makes you out of step - idea and should have guessed it would be your narrow logic that might take you there. I imagine that makes you one of the people who believe, because the vast majority once did, that the earth is flat in that case.

If you had read my posts you might, if you actually stopped to think, have realised that I was not saying anyone was wrong or anyone right - just that there will be two perspectives on this and that LG's was not all sweetness and light. Perhaps the odd person with a less extreme snowflake attitude has thought about that but not you Bridgeit; never you.

Sigh.

The fact that you have pinpointed 30 Gransnetters, says it all, if you think about , who could it be that is out of sync?

Well GG unfortunately ( as I have said before) when you reply on any topic, you always criticise the person about their grammer, wording & delivery of their post ,completely ignoring the essence of what they are saying, much like a 1950s school mam,it’s like you are always trying to point score & get one over on someone else. It spoils the flow of the thread.

Christinefrance, Nannarose, Maggiemaybe, Wheniwasyourage, BBbevan, BlueBelle, Menopaws, MawBroon, Bellanonna, FarNorth, cornergran, nanasam, dbDB77, Imperfect27, Tottylimejuice, Nonnie, Atqui, DanniRae, Bridgeit, merlotgran, MissAdventure, Jalima1108, annsixty, NfkDumpling, lemongrove, Madgran77, Starlady, PageTurner, Alexa and Elrel.

On this thread you all supported LG and soothed her ruffled feathers to some degree or another - which is fine; that is your opinion.

So why do a few feel that when I said that there are always two sides to every issue and that LG declared her views of these people which they may have picked up on did a few of you feel that one persons opinion had to be suppressed. At least one of you came on just to do that having not commented on the thread before.

It is true - there are always two sides to an issue. It is also true that, so far, we have free speech on these boards. Thirty people offered one view; one person tried to balance things. Surely you are not so insecure that you cannot allow that view to be voiced.

My approach would be Perhaps to avoid the poncy lot
Cos how it is supposed to be I really don’t give a jot
It is one’s imagination that can convey it all,so string some words together, it really is your call. ?

They deserve some sympathy too
I'm not really sure why, they sound rather unkind
and if they are reading this then perhaps they may think twice before doing it to someone else.

What would the posters on this thread say is their approach to poetry?

Exploratory? Critical? Analytical? Theoretical? Emotional? Appreciative? or just plain Poncy?

Answers on a postcard in a post please.

Ohh dear ohh dear GG reverting to childish insults yet again, is there no end .....

I have just repeated what you said in the OP LG. Nothing more, nothing less. I am not being pedantic (do you actually know what that means Bridgeit) but there were obviously two sides to this spat.

You may wish to change how you are viewed now but what you said is for all to see in the OP; it's not as if I'm making it up. With all the attention and sympathy you have gathered here by telling everyone how badly you feel others behaved, I feel someone should show some sympathy for those who you have viewed, while you 'enjoyed' their company, as people who "took a rather poncy approach to poetry" which, you tell us, did not always sit easily with you.

They deserve some sympathy too. They may even be reading this.

Ohh dear GG, still being pedantic to the bitter end instead of going with the flow of the thread . It adds nothing to the topic. You are very good at grammar, but sadly come across as lacking in emotional understanding & human interactions. A bit like not being able to see the woods for the trees. Lighten up & add a little sunshine & laughter .

You have misunderstood what I was saying Gracesgran - but I have already said that!

I understood what you were saying LG. "I want sympathy for this situation even though I feel making derogatory remarks about what they were sharing is okay and there is a good chance they knew how I felt."

Six of one and half a dozen of the other with some other poor person caught in the middle.

Just thought that I would feedback that the steps I have taken have borne fruit. The other "reject" has patched up her uneasy relationship with the person who started the group as the air has been cleared for them - all good - as have I.

The toilet lady I have steered clear of as her comments were very hurtful and enough is enough!

Thanks for your useful remarks - and splendid poetry.

I can see Gracesgran that it is hard for you to comment when you have not understood the situation - which I have now resolved with the people involved.

Thank you to those who gave me the strength to deal with this.

You mean you belonged to a group, the majority of whose contributions you were happy to dismiss as being 'poncy' Alexa. Why, just out of interest, would you stay in, or want to stay in a group whose attitude it would seem, if you feel like the OP, to hold in some contempt?

Do you not think they would be aware that's how you felt?

GracesGran wrote:

"Does it Alexa? I thought it was talking about unshared anger not hypocrisy"

I agree that it's about unshared anger. The message is the same though which is that a friend explains and tells so that something can be set right. Anger is to my mind less bad than cold hypocrisy because anger is likely to be voiced. The OP really struck a chord with me.

Well, I've heard worse I must say, from 'established' poets!
But other Gransnetters are more worthy candidates than me.

Jalima- there are lots of local poets laureate nowadays. Most are in post for 12 months. Why not aim for a laurel wreath?!

I don't think I'd qualify for Poet Laureate (although some on here could be candidates!)