....to feel disappointed?

Poets all! - I salute you!

Ann!

Another 3 liner..Go wet yourself.

Now I have a clearer understanding of why you sent the email, LG. Good for you!

How horrible. Upsetting for you and the other 'reject'.
I'm glad the poetry groups I go to are kind and supportive.

As for the one word poem, I've experienced a three word one! At an Open Mic session at the time of the election, a member 'the most hated grime band in the Midlands' got up. He then stormed about yelling 'Strong and Stable' in various tones for his 5 minute slot. I have to admit I've not forgotten his slot! Memorable performance!

If she knocks upon your door
Rings your bell or stamps the floor
Say Begone! Our personal loo
Is out of bounds for such as you!
You spun me a false tarradiddle
Go elsewhere and do a widdle.

I think you did the right thing in sending the email Luckygirl - they sound cliquey and insensitive.

If next time she comes to pee
Send her to the apple tree

We will agree to disagree Grace - I am aware that there are 2 sides to everything and I am party to both sides.

The bottom line is that a small social group of 5 people was disbanded by the person who initiated it; she then reconvened it leaving 2 people out. That is insulting and hurtful and one of those two individuals cried on and off for 2 weeks over it.

I do not think that can be good.

I initially asked whether I was BU to feel disappointed by this. I do not think I was - you clearly disagree. That is fine.

I don't think I did misunderstand Luckygirl. I simply think there is another side to any issue.

You asked if you were being unreasonable. Perhaps we should have another title which says "I just want everyone to agree with my point of view.

I think you have slightly misunderstood the situation Graces. The other members did know the hurt they had caused as J burst into tears at one point when she realised what had happened - when she was at another function where the others happened to be present and in the course of the meeting they asked each other when the next poetry group was and it became clear what was going on.

My email of yesterday (when I heard how upset she had been) was simply to provide her with some back-up - to make the point that she was not being over-sensitive, but that things had not been handled well.

No olive branches here - the lady came for a pee!!

The remaining 3 members now know that their actions caused offence; up till then they were oblivious to the feelings of the two rejects.

I let it ride past me - other more pressing issues in my life - but only decided to speak up when I could see how much hurt had been caused.

The 't's are still going missing and I haven't spotted the all - sorry.

Does it Alexa? I thought it was talking about unshared anger not hypocrisy. But we will all inerpert these things in different ways I suppose. To me it seems to refer more to the sort of unspoken anger Luckygirl described in herself - until she sent the email of course.

The people with the 'poncy approach' did not seem to be wrathful; they seem to have resolved their issues with the group. They do not seem to have 'watered it with fear' either. I cannot imagine the one who called a Luckygirl's house in the way she did doing that if she was feeling a growing anger. More like the offering of an olive branch perhaps.

They made on decision and then another and that resolved it for them. We may not like the basis of that decision but it does seem, from Lucky's own description, that this was a two way thing - and that is without any evidence from the three who chose what they wanted to do.

Wonderful poem isn’t it Alexa ? In fact all his poems are wonderful.

Luckygirl, William Blake's A Poison Tree describes such hypocrisy.
I was angry with my friend;
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

And I waterd it in fears,
Night & morning with my tears:
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.

And it grew both day and night.
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine.

And into my garden stole,
When the night had veild the pole;
In the morning glad I see;
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.

I am so envious of all of you who can write poetry just off the top of your head. I couldn't write a poem if my life depended on it. Good for you, Luckygirl, for letting these women know what twits they are. But I imagine it didn't even phase them in they own little world. What goes around comes around so they may get a bit of karma coming their way to bite them in their &$?!

So sorry this happened, Luckygirl! It's clear that these 3 ladies wanted to go in a different direction from you and, perhaps, J, and that you, in fact, would have preferred for things to go in a different direction than they wanted. It's possible they knew their approach "didn't sit well with" you, but didn't know what to do about it.

Yes, they should have told you and J that they wanted to focus on a poncy approach and, therefore, needed to let you 2 go. But perhaps they were afraid that would hurt your feelings. Or they're just cowards and were afraid you and J would object and they didn't know how to deal with it. Most likely, they thought they were making it easier on everyone by lying. Obviously, to the contrary, they made it harder. But I doubt they thought that would be the result and don't think they intended to be cruel.

Imo, it's great that you spoke up and showed your support for J - IF they knew she was upset by what happened. If they didn't know, then you may have overstepped and spilled her private concerns, etc. I hope it's the former.

Perhaps you and J can start your own poetry club, as someone else suggested - maybe call it "Not a Poncy Poetry Group."

And yes, GNHQ, a poetry group here would be great!

GracesGranMk2 dear me! Lucky expressed sadness and hurt at underhandedness which I fair enough! She has now clearly stated her concerns, supporting the other excluded lady. Even if as you say, they " got the message", tthey could easily have raised issues not pretended the group was stopping

??

Me neither Bridgeit....but am I bovvered? Not a bit.

Also sad to say happens on here too Lemongrove,I have apparently not met the required standards at time ?

Well done! ?

For me it was water under the bridge till today when I realised that this other lady had been seriously upset about it. I wanted to back her up.

You need a pee?
Too bad, hee-hee!

Presumably the woman who said to you that the group was now ended was trying not to hurt your feelings but the one who came to your door sounds very weird, not only calling to use the loo but in saying what she did.
You are better out of their company by the sound of it.
Writing groups, poem groups and book groups do sometimes attract pretentious sorts.

What poncy, two faced, treacherous. back stabbing, nasty bitches they are. I hope you’ve had the opportunity to dish the dirt about them in your old village. Slyly in the nicest possible way of course. Especially as the other lady was so upset. Does she still have to see them about the place?

I feel well and truly slapped!