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making xmas presents?

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bobbin Fri 10-Nov-17 15:25:46

After a bit of a rocky year in terms of finances, I'm thinking of making my family's christmas presents this year. I'm a keen crafter and think I can make a good job of things that they'll really like. When i mentioned this to a friend yesterday, she looked at me like I'd said I was getting them a lump of coal each!

Is it miserly to make their xmas presents? I had thought it was more personal, but now I have my doubts confused

Marydoll Fri 10-Nov-17 22:26:07

Never sent her another card since! sad

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Nov-17 22:36:29

smile

'Some people know the price of everything but the value of nothing'

paddyann Fri 10-Nov-17 23:15:44

many years ago my sister and I decided that rather than buy mass produced sweets and chocolates we'd make them ...and the boxes .We mad a huge variety of sweets ,jellies and fudges adn soft cetred chocolates but we enjoyed doing so much we forget when to stop and ended up with hundreds of sweets with no homes ,so we made up boxes and handed them into shops we regularly used and knew the staff well .Places like hairdressers and bakers and the wool shop and even the doctors and dentist got 3 or 4 pounds of chocolates each.We didn't make them ever again...it cost us a fortune ...lol

Imperfect27 Sat 11-Nov-17 06:50:45

bobbin we are approaching Christmas differently this year too as I have changed jobs and taken a substantial pay cut. I have been upfront about this with the family and also invited them to think in terms of spending less too! I am intending to make some foody presents and am generally trimming budgets. Glad to say DD is sensible and my one and only GC, who is 2, will get some charity shop gifts.

travelsafar Sat 11-Nov-17 07:17:14

I couldnt think of a nicer gift to receive than something someone had made just for me.

It would mean they had really thought about me and i would have something that was a constant reminder of them and possibly an heirloom in the making!!!

ginny Sat 11-Nov-17 07:49:02

I love hand / home made gifts and often give or receive them.
The value of a gift is in the thought behind it not its monetary value.

Leticia Sat 11-Nov-17 07:55:08

Ignore your friend- a lovely idea.

Grannyknot Sat 11-Nov-17 08:01:34

bobbin ignore your friend, she is clueless about how special home made gifts can be. Last year, on a whim, I made some DIY gifts from suggestions on the Gransnet site. I made the "Biscuits in a Jar" and the homemade bath salts and both were very well received, so I shall do it again this year. I found pretty jars in Poundland, and wrote personalised gift tags, with the Method written on the back for the baking, and Instructions for use for the bath salts. (I bought plain brown tags and drew around the edge with gold pen and then wrote on them). My DIL made the biscuits with my little grandson and posted pics on Instagram (so it was a gift that kept on giving! smile

I made the bath salts using rose essential oil and I mixed some Himilayan (pink) rock salt crystals in. For the biscuit jar (which looks really pretty all layered up) I adapted the recipe (e.g. I bought fudge pieces from Waitrose).

Just writing this up reminds me how much enjoyment I got out of it.

www.gransnet.com/christmas/diy-christmas-presents

MesMopTop Sat 11-Nov-17 08:13:19

I sometimes makes sweets and biccies and wrap them in cellophane with a ribbon or put the wrapped goodies into some besutiful old tins when I can find them. I've had soaps inside lovely little net bags, which I refill with more scented soap to keep in the undie drawers. I've also had gorgeous gifts that people have made using bits of driftwood, shells etc. some people are just so clever. Another lovely gift I've had was a lot of tea towels but the giver had crotcheted around the borders and made a loop so I could hand them up. Just perfect. Home made jams are very welcome. I prefer small, hand made gifts. I think it's more in keeping with the spirit of Christmas and to think that someone has put love, time and effort into their gift is just beautiful.

Nanna58 Sat 11-Nov-17 08:19:11

I love a handcrafted gift, what a lovely idea. The only people who wouldn't are those who ' know the price of everything and the value of nothing ' .

Maggiemaybe Sat 11-Nov-17 08:32:06

Thank you for the link, Grannyknot, I'd missed that article on Gransnet. I'm off to the shops Poundland later this morning, and I'll be stocking up on jars!

Mapleleaf Sat 11-Nov-17 08:50:02

I think it's a wonderful idea. Go for it! 😁

NanaandGrampy Sat 11-Nov-17 09:02:04

Go for it I say bobbin . I make lots of little things for my lot. They seem well received ( although they could all be being polite !!) . This year I have made a big box of Bugatti's for one little grandson ( I personalised a large box and filled it with all things Bugatti ( I think he'll love the box as much as the insides!), I've made my granddaughter a box of hair bows ( The JoJo bows are extortionately priced and for a fraction of the money I made her a box full!) .

I also give homemade vouchers for things like babysitting , shopping trips or even in one case a full on afternoon tea at my house.

So , perhaps your daughter in law would like something like that ...a 'me time' voucher??

Elegran Sat 11-Nov-17 09:40:41

Bobbin's friend is clearly one of the many ignoramuses who think that all the beautiful things in the shops arrive there fully-formed by magic. SOMEONE made them all, some of them by sweated labour on a production line, some individually and with skill and imagination. If she has never made anything herself she won't appreciate what time and ability goes into a handmade gift (and hand-made does not have to look HOME-made)

Smithy Sat 11-Nov-17 09:40:45

There were some lovely ideas on that link! I liked the Jack Daniels soap dispenser for men (they probably wouldn't like soap in a crochet cover!)

goldengirl Sat 11-Nov-17 11:08:21

I used to make things - sewing or knitting [I can't crochet for the life of me] - when we were first married and this thread makes me want to give it a go again. Thanks for the kick up the bum grin - but I've got to sew up a jumper I've taken nearly a year to knit first!!!!!

pembrokeshireflowerfarmer Sat 11-Nov-17 11:16:15

we really hate all the consumer tat that we're given - would love something homemade

HeyHo Sat 11-Nov-17 12:12:30

I think any friend worth having will appreciate the time and effort that goes into making gifts. I also think in these times when so many people have to make do, and go without and are frankly starving in various parts of the world, there is something slightly ( to me) immoral in spending tons of money of stuff people don't really need - just look at the loads of unwanted Christmas gifts that end up in the Charity shops.....

Antonia Sat 11-Nov-17 12:30:13

Please make handcrafted gifts! I used to make all my Christmas cards and loved doing it. So much thought and attention goes into something you make yourself, surely anyone would appreciate them.

Breda Sat 11-Nov-17 12:45:55

It’s a lovely idea - I just wish I had the time and more importantly the skill!

marpau Sat 11-Nov-17 13:17:05

I read the duchess of cambridge struggled to think of a present for the queen so made some chutney from her grandmother's recipe it was very well received!

suzied Sat 11-Nov-17 14:59:28

Hand-made sounds better than Home-made for some reason. We have lots of arty crafty types in the family including an artist and photographer and I’m a bit of a seamstress so hand made gifts and cards are frequent. I’d much rather get something “made with love” than expensive tat probably made in China.

Deedaa Sat 11-Nov-17 20:38:46

DH's cousin used to have Christmas cards printed of her own paintings. She died several years ago and I really miss seeing her cards.

hildajenniJ Sat 11-Nov-17 23:05:13

As we speak, I'm busy making Christmas decorations to give to family and friends. My DGC love the mini stockings and youngest DGS likes the mini Christmas trees. It's not a good light, but I hope you can see.

robbienut Sun 12-Nov-17 11:58:40

No it's not miserly - it takes time and effort to make gifts and a lot of love. I wish I had the time!! Go for it :-)