Seething!!!!

Message for Benjiesmum: You are being abused, and bullied. Have you got a friend or family member who can be there when this person comes down? if she does come down, don't open the door, if you have made it clear that you don't want a visit. Never give anyone your bank card or details. Completely agree with Alchemilla's advice. If you are being threatened the police would visit, possibly a PCSO who would support you.

People who have to justify themselves (e.g. this neighbour to your other neighbour) usually do it because they know they are in the wrong. This was totally disrespectful and of course because they have been so unreasonable wont be able to use your drive again. You are good enough to let other neighbour's use your drive and they know this, so I wouldn't worry. I would be very miffed it it were me!Total lack of manners.

Old woman, You have been lovely, there is no reason to change your kind ways. Perhaps a note put through all doors outlining how horrible was the behaviour of No 18s was, may establish you do it out of kindness and cannot understand the behaviour meted out to you. Who knows perhaps an apology may come your way? Sorry that such unpleasantness happened. Or perhaps a more upfront neighbour may instil manners to them more bluntly.

Someone parked across my DD’s drive and she had to wrap DGD (aged 4) up and walk her to the GP where she was diagnosed with a chest infection. DD left quite a polite note in the windscreen informing the driver of this. She hasn’t parked there again though others have.

I think this is downright rude. My neighbour's went away for Christmas and said that my daughter could put her car on their drive while they were away. However, I have neighbour's opposite who have room for 4 cars but as soon as any other neighbours are away for a while put one of their cars on that drive. So they put their car there for the whole of Christmas, and then went away! Their next door neighbour is disabled and has carers several times a day but because she had sold her car, they parked on her drive, even cleaned their car there! In the end the lady had to ask them to stop parking there as the careers had nowhere to park.

OMG that’s awful - I think a very “polite” note in this neighbours door outlining that your driveway is no longer available for anyone staying with them - what a bloody cheek

Years ago I worked in an office close to city centre shops. We had just 8 double length parking slots, clearly marked PRIVATE PARKING. We used to block each other in, and the car owner or receptionist would move cars if needed. Complicated, but it worked. Sometimes cheeky shoppers would block a car in! They only did it once. The Receptionist had a stack of half A5 sized labels, the sort you had to dampen to get to stick, and she would put one dead centre of the drivers side of the windscreen! Positioned deliberately to make it as hard as possible to see to drive, with a polite note saying no parking, access require at all times etc. If she was in a very bad mood, she'd refuse to give them any water to help remove it too, and this was in the days before everyone carried drinks everywhere!

So rude and impolite, firstly he should have asked you and said which time he would be moving it next day if you said yes. Such thoughtless people around.

@Benjiesmum

Select AIBU and go to the orange box "start new discussion".

But since you're on this thread - you are being abused. Have you any family you can talk to? Never ever give your card or pin number. Lock the door and don't respond to her. You've helped her out through sympathy and she sounds as if she's now fully prepared to take every financial advantage. I would also contact Age UK 0800 055 6112 and describe your problem.

Re the op i would have been absolutely furious if that happened to me. We very often get delivery vans park across our driveway and i know they are only going to be there for a short while so dont mind that.Also we have a district nurse attending to a lady further up our road who i said could use our drive or the space in front if necessary- i know her car, same with the meals on wheels person. But a guest at someone elses house,unless pre arranged, i would have been incandecent with the cheek of it!!!

Hi, I'm new to gransnet and not sure how to start a new post, hope nobody minds me tagging along on this one. I've been at home for the last year or so I suffer from Rheumatoid arthritis which can make my mobility limited. This is my problem, my neighbour started coming over having left her job (we're both in our early sixties) and because I felt sorry for her I started helping her out with groceries clothes etc, she now comes down every afternoon which I find too much. Six weeks ago I broke my ankle, living alone I found it difficult to manage so she helped me out around the house, I paid her for this and also at her request bought her a laptop. She also keeps asking for my bank card so she can get her wages out which I obviously refused. I now feel I need to put a stop to this but how do I do this without causing conflict. I realise I sound like a complete idiot, and I know I have to put a stop to this, she is a very forceful lady and when on occasion I have gently hinted I would like some time alone her reply is I'm coming down anyway!

Personally, once I found out that the car didn’t belong to my immediate neighbours I would have called the police! I certainly wouldn’t have called on someone I’ve never spoken to as I wouldn’t expect them to use my drive. Some people!!

I saw a tv programme this morning about people who park in residential areas to save the airport car parking fees,
Most of these cars, while not blocking drive access were half on half off the pavement.so pushchairs wheel chairs and similar couldn't get passed ..and were there for weeks at a time.
In one area the residents when round pasting large notices on the windscreens. I think they were campaigning for double yellows as an end to it all

Our flat in the UK has a parking place, paid for. One of the neighbours has 2 cars and has got used to using it when we are away. I don't mind at all - but when we had friends staying at the flat recently- they of course used the parking space (has the flat number writ large on the paving stones) and they got a mouthful from said neighbour for using the space. They explained they were staying at the flat which we had lent them for a couple of weeks - and that we had given permission. They still gave them dirty looks and muttering under their breaths everytime they met ... the blooming cheek. We now have asked the site manager to stop them from parking there, at any time.

I have learned lessons from being neighbourly as there is always someone who will take advantage. Apart from this ignorant neighbour, who was by law trespassing as you had not given her permission to use your drive , have you ever considered the wear and tear you are putting on your drive by the coming and going of others ?would they be willing to 'chip in' when your drive needs maintenance?I am sorry if this sounds harsh but by your generosity you have made a rod for your own back and have now unfortunately been taken advantage of. Should you learn this person is continuing with her unjustified comments, then seek advice from CAB ,who will advise how to handle this person possibly by you sending a letter to her advising her comments are unjustifiable and slanderous and that she was /or her visitor was in fact trespassing and by your allowing close neighbours on your drive is not an open invitation for the rest of the area. Good luck.

What a blooming cheek, I doubt that any of the people this ill mannered fool complains to will have any sympathy with him.

You ladies have my every sympathy

You're obviously a very accommodating person. I don't blame you for having a rant! I'm not impressed with your neighbour passing on rude remarks about you, that's almost as upsetting as the nasty incident in the first place.

I'm not sure retaliation is good idea though, it might only escalate the problem. You shouldn't have to put up any notices to stop people parking in your own drive.

As gransnetters have said above, get the police to tow it away if it happens again. They soon turn up if they can't contact them via their registration number (it's happened to me).

Anyway, hope it never happens again.

My son lives opposite a very busy church which has activities going on most evenings. He regularly finds cars parked either completely or partly blocking his driveway. He usually leaves a polite (!) note on the windscreen. On one occasion when he spoke to a driver he was told that they were only there for an hour so didn't think it mattered. So cheeky!

I'm sure your neighbours would know who was being unreasonable but to restore your good name, I might perhaps have a word, when passing, to reiterate that although you are still happy for them to park on your driveway, you really do need egress when you want, i.e. unlike the other day when...... etc.

My daughter lives in a house with a driveway in a busy town centre and has, returning after a 14 hour working day, found another (stranger, not a neighbour's) car ensconced there.... A car was also parked there with two small - two-three years old - children left in in whilst the owner 'popped out to collect some dry-cleaning'! Words would just fail me.

Alternatively, you could just block the neighbour's driveway who's guest block you in...... Naughty Candelle!

Kitty- Single yellow lines as protection? You’re lucky that they are observed!
In a suburb near me the entitled ones collecting precious snowflakes park on double yellow lines This is on a narrow main road used by numerous bus routes and heavy vehicles. They are also half on the pavement and some actually park at the bus stop. Buses have to stop up to a metre from the kerb thus blocking traffic in both directions.
There are two pub car parks (empty at 3pm) less than 5 minutes walk away. Neither the primary school nor the police seem capable of dealing with this.

Starbird and peardrop this is beyond killing with kindness.

I think I would ask the local community policeman to go round and have a word.

One of my properties was in the middle of a conservation area, at the of a dirt track and over a bridge and clearly a private property. Someone parked in our garden and went for a long walk. I wrote a rude message in lipstick all over the driver's wind screen. Very effective. Didn't happen again and whoever it was, was not tyo be seen!

Thanks for all the supportive messages - actually my other neighbours have given her short shrift. One neighbour has suggested taking it in turns to park on the street blocking her drive to give her a taste of her own medicine . I don't think she, or any of her visitors, will be using my drive again!

What a horrid thing for you to have to deal with.
I do love the poem Phoenix and Granny Guitar, both made me smile.
I'd be inclined to take Starbird's advice, nothing takes down a less than decent person more than exceptional kindness, and it feels so good.
I'm sure your other neighbours won't believe the unreasonable tittle tattle as you're obviously a good person xx

As other neighbours are allowed to use your space I think they won't be interested in malicious gossip