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Oldwoman70 Wed 03-Jan-18 12:20:15

I am fortunate to have a large drive and am happy for my neighbours with smaller drives to park on it as long as I can get in an out. New Years day I saw a strange car on the drive, parked in such a way as to prevent me getting out. I assumed it belonged to a guest of my next door neighbour and ignored it until I needed to leave the house at mid-day. Rang my neighbour, not his. I then had to go along the street knocking on all the doors to find out who it belonged to. Eventually found it was a neighbour at the far end of the street, who has never spoken to me. I asked if the car could be moved as I was going out. The neighbour said the owner was still in bed but that she would tell him

After 20 minutes I went back and said I was still waiting for the car to be moved to be told the owner was in the shower!! Again said I was waiting to go out and could someone else move it only to be told he didn't like anyone else driving his car and that I was being unreasonable as he wouldn't be much longer!! Told them that I didn't care if he was stark naked the car had better be moved immediately as I was going to ring a friend who owned a tow truck and lived 5 minutes away to come and move it for me (I don't!) A young man with wet hair and looking very angry arrived and moved the car.

Now the reason I am seething - was speaking to my next door neighbour today and he said that the first neighbour is telling everyone how unreasonable I was! angry

Sorry just felt the need to rant to someone!!!

M0nica Thu 04-Jan-18 07:02:11

Cabbie21, we have this problem as well as we live opposite the local primary school. On woman parked her car in the entrance to our access road and was outraged when I expected her to move it to allow me to access my own home.

jeanie99 Thu 04-Jan-18 00:56:48

Unbelievable, I think you were incredibly patient.

I would have a sign put up now saying This is a private drive and parking is no longer allowed.

Cabbie21 Wed 03-Jan-18 23:30:14

I have been told that parents doing the local school drop off often block people in or dare to park on their drives. What a cheek!

Eloethan Wed 03-Jan-18 22:48:00

It's unbelievable isn't it how some people think they have a right to do whatever they want, without regard to common courtesy or the law.

Rosina Wed 03-Jan-18 22:34:16

I hope your neighbours have all given him a piece of their minds! Cheeky rascal - how dare he do that. Why should you have to negotiate with strangers to get out of your own driveway? I can empathise here as our last house had off road parking and one neighbour would frequently park over the dropped kerb and block me in. One day she parked, rushed into her house and slammed the door, and went to bed as she had done a night shift. I had to hammer on the door, and then she started to deny that it was her car. It took a really fierce Paddington hard stare to get her out to move it.

Suzisue Wed 03-Jan-18 22:27:40

I've had this in my road with my drive. People have parked on it without asking and in front of it. Ok I don't drive but how does anyone know that I haven't let someone rent my garage? Downright ill mannered I'd say and the other neighbours shouldn't get involved. How very mean of your neighbour to be like that!

thecatgrandma Wed 03-Jan-18 20:58:23

There is a growing tendency now for any person who is blatantly in the wrong/doing a bad job/caught out doing something he/she shouldn’t , to turn it all around and totally blame the complainant. At alarmingly high and powerful levels as well. I would simply contact the neighbours who have always used and tell them thatit you can no longer accommodate them due to the unpleasant experience you have had with the one particular neighbour and his guest. Maybe then the said neighbour will have all the rest of them complaining cos of his selfishness, see how he likes being slagged off by all around him. Failing that, slash his tyres ?

M0nica Wed 03-Jan-18 20:42:25

I would have been spitting feathers and been a lot more direct than you were, OW70* I would have told him in no uncertain terms to get out of bed and move his car NOW. He was parked on private property.

We share a private access road with two other houses, we are at the dead end. Our neighbours are all very careful and courteous to make sure we are not boxed in, but both have had extensions built and despite making it clear to their builders that they must always leave us proper access, I have lost count of the number of times we have had to get contractors out to back out or park somewhere else so that we can either get out or back in.

All look absolutely amazed that there is another house beyond the one they are working at, even though the houses are in a row and there is only 5 foot between us and our neighbour

Grannyguitar Wed 03-Jan-18 20:40:33

May the fleas of a thousand camels infest his nether regions, and his arms be too short to scratch!

NfkDumpling Wed 03-Jan-18 18:55:12

Good curse Phoenix. I retrieved my wand and recited it facing vaguely westward, since there’s mostly sea to the east and north of me. Hopefully it hit home.

Luckygirl Wed 03-Jan-18 18:39:26

grin

phoenix Wed 03-Jan-18 18:18:10

You parked your car upon my land,
I send a curse to you prostate gland,

May it cause you much irritation, looking for toilets at every station,

And because these days you need a coin,

I wish you pain within your groin.

Oh please may your inconveniences be,

Double those that you caused to me!

Jane10 Wed 03-Jan-18 18:00:06

kittylester I'll send round the fiery cross to gather the Grans. We'll need to have a wee practice though as many of the members of the invective squad have lost their voices.

NanaandGrampy Wed 03-Jan-18 17:29:07

Maybe next time you see his car, block him in and see how he likes it??

Just plain bad manners !! Id make it plain to that particular neighbour that they cannot under any circumstances park on your drive.

lemongrove Wed 03-Jan-18 17:14:37

In future only tell the neighbours that you like that they can do this otherwise it will happen again,you have been kind and taken advantage of.

Day6 Wed 03-Jan-18 17:11:06

It's bad enough that you had to go out and knock on doors to discover who had been so thoughtless Oldwoman. That they didn't respond instantly and apologise says a lot about them. You had every right to threaten him with a tow truck when he didn't make the effort to hurry up and move his car from your drive. How dare your neighbour criticise you for your actions when she knows exactly who was in the wrong! I'd seethe too. Reasonable people in the wrong would reflect, bring you a bunch of flowers and apologise for the trouble they'd caused. If only the world worked like that, eh?

Luckygirl Wed 03-Jan-18 16:59:50

So he was actually parked on YOUR drive!!!

NfkDumpling Wed 03-Jan-18 16:53:50

A simple sign saying Private Drive would make it clear to all that they park only with your permission.

If a neighbour is going to take advantage perhaps it may be an idea to ask those who do use it for their car details so you can be sure whose car it is, then you can be picky!

Does anyone know if there is any liability on the property owner if a car parked there is damaged?

annodomini Wed 03-Jan-18 16:47:51

I would have called the police as I have done when thoughtless people have blocked my entry - not many in 17 years, but those few have been 'booked'.

Oldwoman70 Wed 03-Jan-18 15:51:35

phoenix grin.

Oldwoman70 Wed 03-Jan-18 15:49:51

Thanks for the replies, I really just wanted to have a rant and get it off my chest!

I don't have gates and wouldn't want to go to the expense of having them installed.

My neighbours are (mostly) very nice and I wouldn't want to take it out on them because one has been so rude. My next door neighbour has suggested I put up a sign "neighbours feel free to park as long as you don't block me in - except the shits living in No ... who will immediately be towed!"

phoenix Wed 03-Jan-18 15:47:14

Here you go, invest in one of these www.argos.co.uk/product/7406164

phoenix Wed 03-Jan-18 15:44:43

Shall I apply a curse to his big end?

Christinefrance Wed 03-Jan-18 15:40:37

I can't believe people would have such cheek OldWoman

I would be furious too, I agree with kittylester send in the grans !! angry

Baggs Wed 03-Jan-18 15:33:00

There's something to be said for living at the end of a shock-absorber-wrecking lumpy bumpy twisty track then ?

I'd be seething too, OW ????

The neighbours who know you won't be deceived by the malicious gossip.