Gransnet makes me feel lonely

Hello Jam, I’m quite new here too but I’ve found eventually you get to recognise people and some I’ve met on here have been just lovely. Once you start posting, they get to know you too. I tend to post more when I can’t sleep! Please don’t feel bad, ? for you

Where would I find cake!!??

I thought I'd take a look at the Town and Country game but don't know how it works, let alone get the spellings wrong

Luckygirl I only pop into the kitchen from time to time and can never catch up on all the goings-on - but there is always a friendly welcome, especially if you bring cake!

Annie please stay on the town country game. Its lovely to meet up even if it is just in the virtual world.


Agree we were all newcomers when we bravely posted on GN for the first time

But soop - some people feel alienated from the kitchen as it is such a close group of folk! - it is hard to break in!

But the sentiment and aim of it are much appreciated.

There, I meant

Annie don’t worry about spelling. We will know what you mean and that’s all that matters.
soop what a lovely post. I wish I’d started off by joining your lovely kitchen instead of getting my head bitten off elsewhere. I didn’t know the rules, and just barged right in with my badly-received comment. The kitchen is a lovely place, and hope we see jam and blencathra in here.

Hello, Blencathra, when I first joined Gransnet, like every other new netter, I felt out of my depth. I seemed to have the knack of upsetting one newcomer and there were times when I thought...b****r this for a game of soldiers! I'm not the brightest of folk. Politics and religion are no-go arrears. I do find it rather difficult to make new friends (because at heart, I'm a loner). I persevered and after some long time I thought I can open a virtual kitchen and hope that a few like-minded souls will join in discussing the ordinary, every day ups and downs of life. Sometimes someone needs reassurance/support/the wherewithal to celebrate or commiserate. Nothing more, nothing less. So far, so good. We become virtual friends, and sometimes meet in person. We were all newcomers. I'm very glad that I have Gransnet. It has opened up my life, especially now that I'm retired and live in a fairly remote area of Scotland. All good wishes to you. Perhaps you'll pop in sometime. You will made very welcome.

I am hopeless in the games but always joined in with town, country, then someone just had to correct my bad spelling , hey ho ?

Just popped in Jamsideown to say that is lovely to see you participating in the games threads. That's how I gained confidence to post on other threads.

Go for it Wilma

Aw Jamside, sorry to hear you feel ignored. I joined a while ago but have only just started visiting the site regularly and feel the exact opposite to you. I feel accepted already. Don't hold back, jump in and comment on threads, it's your right.
I tend to look at the Active posts because I don't have enough time to read every thread. Other folks must be the same. I'm sure nobody ignores you intentionally. So don't take it personally. Big hug x

I had a look last night and I couldn't find any recent thread petitioning for a 'Like' button, although you only get 10 pages of search results. This is the only message board I've come across with no option to show support or otherwise for a thread. The bare minimum I know of is a simple 'Like' option and lots of message boards give both a thumbs up and a thumbs down option.

Do you think there would be a lot of support for a petition? I don't mind starting a thread.

I think a like button would be a good idea- I have never thought of it being a competitive thing. I suppose it depends what you want out of it. I like being anonymous and am never going to go to a meet up so will always be an outsider. I avoid things like Soop's kitchen because that really makes you feel an outsider when you realise that it has a long history and people know each other and you haven't a clue. However if you want that sort of belonging I expect you just have to persevere until you become an 'old timer'.

Also, a cosy bar stool awaits you in the Argy, totter in on your platform boots and ring the bell on the bar for service.
Big Jim or Barry or one of us will be along soon.
Look on the chat forum threads for The Argy Bargy.In fact I am off there now for a pre lunch snifter.?

jamsidedown A cosy chair awaits your arrival in the kitchen. You will made very welcome.

Marydoll I would love to be able to join in with the next Edinburgh meet-up and have a further hearty blether-session with you. It's just a tad too far. And...the car has decided to play silly buggers. Which means that we'll be needing to borrow a pal's "spare" in order to get oot and aboot. Take care.

Fizzy please carry on jumping right in. That board can be a bit of a bear pit, so a new voice is refreshing. Just don't run straight back out if someone snarls at you!

I think what’s surprised me is the amount of nastiness on the News & Politics thread & has made me wary about commenting but tonight I’ve jumped right in. Everyone has opinions but it’s seems to get personal quickly so I’m trying to find why to the friendly kitchen.

It's a problem on a lot of forums that I have joined. When you are new you are effectively intruding on a clique of folk who have bonded over a long period of time so don't think you will suddenly be welcomed as a friend. In my experience you have to keep adding your comments - after all that is what the forums are supposed to be for - and accept that there are a group who have "known" each other for quite a time. I have found that after a period people will start engaging with you. Stick with it.

Thank you, will drop into the caff and kitchen

Thanks Soop, I've not been in the Caff for a while, as I am spending most of my time supporting various family members who are ill. I'm planning to write a Trip Advisor guide, entitled: "Hospital family rooms in the West of Scotland, I have visited"

I shall raise a glass to you at the Edinburgh meet up. You will be sorely missed......That is if I can dig myself out of the snow!

jamesidedown,, feel free to visit the Argy, we are a motley crew, but would give you a warm welcome.

Sorry, that should read "jamsidedown," not jamesidedown," lol! We need an edit button, too!

Well, you got a lot of replies to THIS thread, jamesidedown, so I hope you feel more welcome now! It might be a good idea to comment here and there on other people's threads for a while, so they get to know you a little, before you open one of your own. You don't have to say anything "controversial," if you're not comfortable with that or try to say something profound. Just a simple, "I feel for you" or "I agree," now and then would probably help.

Speaking of agreeing, I think a "like' button is a good idea, too, for all the reasons said above. But it's up to GNHQ.

jamsidedown If you ever need a place in which to throw caution to the wind...I would recommend the Argy Bargy Caff. No visitor ever leaves without having had a right raucous time. Some appear to have moved in full-time.