AIBU coats on chair-backs

It used to bother me (I’m tidy and organised) but not anymore. DC and DGC are here and gone and I can tidy up afterwards. Friends I can intercept and hang their coats etc where I want them to be. I think GN has made me more tolerant with so many estranged from their families and others lonely.
I’m sure Grande doesn’t make people feel unwelcome and that’s the main thing.

oh dear, should check first, a DMIL who, to put it kindly,

I must have done too much cleaning this morning, at least one room looks immaculate (our shower room which no-one else will see anyway).

had a DM

Sorry if it offends you that some of us are old-fashioned regarding our surroundings.
I don't think it's particularly old-fashioned grandtante - I has a DM who liked everything just so and a DMIL who, to be it kindly, was not tidy!

If someone is coming to stay I would show them where to put things but if they're just coming for a couple of hours or the afternoon it wouldn't bother me if they leave their coats on the newel post or the hall radiator.

Some people are more tidy than others, my intentions are good but I never manage to achieve a very tidy house.

And I agree that the most important thing is that they visit and it's lovely to see them in spite of the noise and chaos. It's soon tidied up when they leave.

I agree Gracesgran. I think it's very rude to require people to take off tgeir shprs (unless its been snowing ot they've been tramping through mud. A quick wipe on the mat's fine. I hate having to expose my bunyons and possibly holey socks at a social gathering.
Dh hates the jumble of shoes people (relatives) leave at the door with the best of intentions so we now have a shoe rack to keep them tidy. And pegs for coats. But coats on chairs or newel post doesn't bother me in the slightest if it's temporary.

Yes YABU. Just be glad you have family who visit. If it really annoys you then put them in the cupboard yourself.

I love it that my grandchildren treat the house like their own; shoes dumped in the hall, coats hung anywhere. After all they take it all with them when they leave so order is restored then, even if the house is a sadder place without them and their messy ways.

Now I would be upset if I didn’t get greeted with a hug and a clamour to explain their latest news. That’s what really matters.

Usually, one tells visitors where to put coats- either " sling them on the newel post" or in an adjacent room, or explain " I'll just put them upstairs" in the spare bedroom. What's the problem? I only have a tiny space at the back of my small, period cottage, so bought a classic bentwood office coat/hat stand. This could solve a lot of problems for people with hallways. Alas, in my case, the coat stand is fully burdened with pp my coats!

Which is more important to you, spending time with your visitors or worrying about where they've left their coats? I think you're missing the whole point of spending time with people.

It's not just visitors it's family too.

I agree there are more important problems in the world, but it bugs me.

I don't lead a particularly stress free life, but I do belong to the minority on this forum who likes a tidy house.

Sorry if it offends you that some of us are old-fashioned regarding our surroundings.

Oh dear, another small problem rearing its head.

Be glad you have visitors.

My tiny house is full of my shawals and cardies etc so wherever I sit I can snuggle myself up, make a cuddle up place for a GC, hide the dog from thunder storms.

Would like visitors, couldn't care less where they put the coats

I do think that there should be some hooks on the wall near the front door so people can hang coats up. It winds me up that at my daughter's house we have to put coats over the bannisters.
Only a detail but all part of leading an organised life.

It isn't something that would bother me. Since it does I would just pick them up saying ' I'll do something with you coats' , without giving them chance to say anything, and put them in the cupboard.

I have a pretty coat rack in the hall, with little boxes on the top and wrought iron hooks.
You can't see much of it though, because its covered in coats, jackets, bags, scarves. (and I still hang my coat over the chair back)

We don`t have a cloakroom, a hall, or a newel post. Visitors tend to plonk their coats near to where they`re sitting. Me? Until I go upstairs, I fold my coat up and put it with my shoes on the floor at the far end of the settee, where they can`t be seen.

When DH trips over them I'll know where they are.

Jalima

Bearing in mind this thread, I came home today and went straight upstairs and put my coat on a coathanger and put it away in the upstairs cupboard.
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However, I did sling my outdoor shoes somewhere, now where are they?

In my house the best casual coat park is the stair gate.

Not getting heated GG. Just wanted to suggest that caring about people and getting annoyed by trivial things are not mutually exclusive.

Perhaps it would have been better in 'Chat' MissAdvenure with a title such as Atqui suggested. The fact that 'Am I being unreasonable' is such a closed question starts it off as a bit of a challenge doesn't it? It seems to imply a yes or no answer.

I think, if you are asking as a world issue whether minding about where a guest puts their coat is unreasonable the answer is yes. If you are asking if anyone else feels equally unreasonable about the little things in life that answer will probably be yes too

I previously said that we don't expect visitors to remove their shoes HOWEVER we are about to have a new living room carpet fitted. Things may change - for a few weeks anyway!

I don't think anyone is getting heated or over the top. Its just a chat, with different views being exchanged.

Just so you can all get heated about something else - I don't make people take their shoes off either. I find that rather rude but it probably isn't.