AIBU coats on chair-backs

We're not 'targeting' her Bridgeit, we're answering her question, which was "AIBU to be annoyed etc...."
If you ask a direct question on the AIBU forum, then you must expect to have some dissent. I think, as do some others, that it is unreasonable to be annoyed by this. Others agree with her and would be equally annoyed. That's how the AIBU forum works

Why are some of you being so harsh about OP, ? Gransnet & our opinions on any subject are just as unimportant in the grand scheme of things , some are lighthearted some are not, why target this lovely lighthearted thread from GrandtanteJE65.

My worry is when visitors take their shoes off - we don't - and I haven't got round to hoovering they end up with furry socks (from the dog).
Me lazy - Never!!
Oh, and they can put their coats where ever they like I'm just pleased to have people over.

I put mine on the newel post and then (sometimes) hang it up. Visitors usually put theirs there too. Cant see the problem.

I think you may have been too literal in it's meanings Maggiemaybe.

First World problems: relatively trivial or minor problem or frustration (implying a contrast with serious problems such as those that may be experienced in the developing world).

I'd say most GN threads are about first world problems, seeing as that's where we live.

We haven't got a newel post, our coat rack is down in the cellar, and DH always chooses to drape his coat, and scarf, and hat, round my chair in the kitchen when he comes in (and sticks his shoes under it, I might add). Unless, of course, my gimlet stare gets to him first.

I've always taken visitors coats at the door when they arrive if they are staying for a while,now I put them on the bed as we are in a bungalow but when we lived in the family house they where hung on pegs under the stairs with a beaded curtain in front to hide them from view.
I dislike seeing coats hung in a hall unless it has a built in cupboard as a hallway should imo be as tidy as the rest of your home,but then again I am so fussy about appearance
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Isn't that what 'newel' posts are for [?]....I'd love one on my staircase [by the way, I didn't know they were called 'newel' posts]. The S.O. has on in Northumberland and I always put my coat and bag there [ignoring the coat stand next to it ]...

We don't have coat hooks, a newel post or hall cupboard so everything gets thrown on the stairs - it drives me mad as I always take my coat and shoes upstairs and put them away. Normally my husband hangs his coat on the back of the dining chair which is very annoying. We do have coat hooks and a shoe cupboard in the passage between the kitchen and garage but no one uses the door to it so there's only me who hangs his coat up or puts his shoes away. When my family left after 6 weeks it was the one thing I didn't miss - all the shoes piled in the hall and clothes on the stairs - they never put anything away! Do miss them though

I'm with the Yes YABU group!
What a stress free life you must lead if this minor issue bothers you so much!

Dear God!!. Agree, it' s yet another hugely vexating first world problem. Try being grateful you have people willing to visit you, without fussing about where they leave their coats. (Wanders off shaking head in despair )

Not really about this thread but when we were in a restaurant in Hong Kong they put our coats on the back of our chairs and then put a cover over them. Our host said it was to prevent any smells getting into the coats. It was a very authentic restaurant and she had to order for us.

OP is probably the definition of first world issue. Is it really all you have to worry about?

Mine usually go bottom of the stair bannister in fact that’s just where mine is sitting right now ??

We have a row of coat hooks in the hall,
But I always say ‘let me hang your coat up’ or similar to visitors, family just do it anyway, but as shysal says, I like to neaten up the discarded shoes that family kick off unasked ( looks like a mosque sometimes).
If visitors can’t see coat hooks/ stand etc then they will do as they do grandtante so make sure you take their coats as they arrive?

They go a funny shape on hangers too, or else get creased if folded and put on a shelf.
Can't win.

None of this bothers me one whit! - I have plenty of other things to get exercised about. I can't see the problem - it is the presence of the people that matters, never mind the coats.

But there is one thing that drives me mad - my OH will put cardigans on chair backs and they finish up a funny shape - he does it with washed wet jumpers too - I have explained to him what happens when you do this - but it floats by! Hey-ho!

^We have an understair coat cupboard, but it has stupid low door frame that I usually manage to bang my head on.
It seems to get me every time ^
the door on ours is OK but there is a solid concrete lintel further instead which gets me every time. I think I said 'Oh dearie me' when I bashed my head again yesterday.

As others have said, I don’t mind where they put their coats as long as they keep coming! With us it is usually the newel post. Is that not why newel posts were invented? When we have guests who are not family I will take their coats and put them in a bedroom out of the way.

We have an understair coat cupboard, but it has stupid low door frame that I usually manage to bang my head on.
It seems to get me every time
so my everyday coat usually goes over the end of the bannister and visitors seem to follow suit. My DGS however like their coats warmed on the radiators
once you start something....
Can't think if a time when coats have gone on the chair backs,
But DH Cardigan or fleece is another matter grr!

Family uses anything on which a coat will drape! Guests I generally take their coat and hang it in the hall cupboard - a bit of a squash though I admit! As for shoes the children take them off and forget where they put them. Adults offer but it doesn't bother me whether they do or don't - as long as at least they remember where they put them!!!!

Nanabilly - I would only dump my coat on the newel post if there was no obvious place to put it. Where should your visitors put their coats?
Years ago visitors' coats went on the double bed in the master bedroom. Did that habit gradually die out?

Never even thought about this - if visitors have overcoats they usually throw them over the stair newel post, jackets on the back of chairs, doesn't bother me in the least! Are your coat hooks visible or would the visitors have to open a cupboard door? If the latter then I am not surprised they don't hang the coats up.

oops, I have a warm cardie slung on the back of this office charir ready for when I feel a bit chilly
When they were little I used to be reluctant to clean the finger marks off the French windows.
I still get those but not so many now of what someone called 'snail trails' from little noses pressed up against the patio door

Crumbs wish that was all I had to get annoyed about!