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to be asked to contribute?

(84 Posts)
Alexa Thu 08-Feb-18 12:59:23

I have never heard of such huge contribution to a simple leaving gift ! As has been said just explain you cannot afford more than £1 -£2. Even that would be too much for folk who are on only the basic old age pension and who want to join the group.

Notagranyet12 Thu 08-Feb-18 12:40:41

Yes, I think all those comments are dead right. £15 is a huge amount to spend on someone you have only met once. It's a shame you've been put in this awkward position though, the person asking should have realised that this really wasn't on. You are definitely not being unreasonable.

glammanana Thu 08-Feb-18 12:39:58

A token gift and a card will certainly suffice and I'm sure it will be appreciated by the lady.

gillybob Thu 08-Feb-18 12:21:57

Just as others have said. Explain that you are happy to make a token gesture to the leaving gift but can't afford £15 considering you barely know the lady.

Crafting Thu 08-Feb-18 12:13:56

£15 is a lot of money. Unless the others are all very good friends it seems a huge amount for a leaving gift. I would suggest a reply like the explanation you gave here and make a small donation or say you will give her a small gift yourself (nice bookmark or something).

granoffour Thu 08-Feb-18 12:11:29

It's an established group - an acquaintance told me her friend was in a bookclub and set it up for me. I get the impression some of them have known each other for a long time but I didn't get a chance to chat with many of them. The couple I sat next to were very welcoming and not clichey at all.

grannyactivist Thu 08-Feb-18 12:09:41

In your shoes I would offer a fiver and explain your situation just as you have on here. People who can afford such money are often simply unthinking and I doubt would take umbrage.

baubles Thu 08-Feb-18 12:05:36

That sounds unreasonable to me. I wouldn’t contribute £15 to a gift in those circumstances. Is it a new group that you’ve just joined, have all the others known each other for longer?

granoffour Thu 08-Feb-18 12:01:45

I have recently joined a local bookclub - only one meet-up so far . Everyone seems very nice (there are about 8-10 of us). All new faces to me even though I've been in the area for a few years now. The one lady is moving to Spain next week so I got an email from one of the women asking to contribute £15 towards her leaving gift. I've only met her once and haven't had more than a brief chat. I rely on my pension and I don't have a lot of spare cash. I wouldn't object if she was a friend of course but I don't want to cause bad feeling though as I've just joined the group. It's a bit awkward. Any ideas on how I should handle this?