Is it usual to go off sex at 65

We haven't had sex for nearly 10 years (I'm 72 DH is 70) because of DH's illness. We are happy without but I wouldn't have minded if our sex life had gone on a bit longer.

*Clakka I have not had any interest in sex for a long time. And I cannot see that changing. I am sure we all have very different degrees of libido. And our hormones are responsible for that. There is no such thing as Normal where this is concerned.

I agree with Bridgeit, the problem is when there is an imbalance between a couple.

There is no "should" - please remember that.

Everyone is different as is every relationship. The people writing in the press are, mainly well under 60, so what do they know about it? Anyway, It has been reported that younger people are having less sex than in the past as they are too tired. They feel guilty and they want us to feel guilty as well

Ignore everything you read about sex. 90% is lies because most people exaggerate both frequency and prowess.

Your relationship is personal and you do what you are both happy with. No one is going to ask you to fill in a questionnaire or put questions on the Census.

Clakka, I think the ‘experts ‘would say there is no normal or unusual. But they don’t really know what to say when it becomes a difference in desire.
I would say it’s not at all unusual, many things change our desires health, boredom, tiredness, or purely just simply gone off ‘it’ as in going off foods you used to love.
The problem is what to do about it when there is an imbalance, talking openly, setting aside special time with a cosy meal & drink or the age old grin & bear it! Not much help I know ,but you are not alone,I think staying a bit cuddly & affectionate can help & even if there aren’t any fireworks,you may find an occasionall glowing ember?

I don’t believe it’s unusual or unacceptable. I’m not saying it’s right for everyone but I don’t see it as any kind of failure