Not to want to wear matching outfits?

merlotgran I am choking on my lol

having a colour theme is a step too far.
I think a suggestion for a colour theme is OK - but going so far as to tell everyone to wear 'black and red' as one bride did (they're divorced now) is going a bit far.
A bit of colour co-ordination is better for the photographs - after all, it's better not to clash

“She said it once, she said it twice, she said it thrice, so it must be true! "

Never knowingly told a fib

Oh no it's a bit stepford wives that is.!!!
When our son and dil wedding plans were taking shape we were told the colours of men's kilts, bridesmaid dresses. flowers.and then left to make our own choices.

Hilarious! I know weddings have taken on a life all their own but honestly, even the biggest Bridzilla can't possible dictate the outfits for the Mob and Mog.
I loved merlotgran's idea of "I too am Spartacus". I particularly liked the notion of everyone wearing the same fabric, it reminded me so much of the Von Trap's curtain material frocks. Ironic Wedding?

I rather hope this is an Easter wind up but fear it may not be, given the Wedding Nightmare stories we often see here.
Just don't do it granny wonder. The Bride is traditionally the Most Important Person at the wedding but nobody can think they're so important can they>

Absolutely not! Just tell you already have an outfit.
Good for your mother Dontaskme - having a colour theme is a step too far.

What a very strange woman, how dare she dictate what you wear.
When my DD married I bought an outfit, long before I saw her dress, in colour (pale salmon) it matched the bolero of her strapless dress.
When DS married I bought an outfit in cream silk and told the bride that was what I was wearing. DIL did not tell anyone what her dress was like so I took a risk but on the day she arrived in a gold silk skirt with crimson and gold bodice.

What a strange idea ! Definitely a no no. You have your dress and you need to wear something you will feel good and comfortable in. I really can’t understand why her Mother would agree to such an arrangement.

Very strange - no no no!
At DD1's wedding most of the groom's family wore white or cream, which I thought was not done. As it happened DD wore a white skirt and veiled top hat with a purple velvet 'riding' jacket, but the family didn't know in advance. However, my outfit, chosen with the bride, was bright sunshine yellow with navy accessories. I stand out like a sore thumb in the photos! I certainly wouldn't have expected to be told to match anyone else!

“She said it once, she said it twice, she said it thrice, so it must be true! “

Oh dear, I don't know what happened to my post

I would try not to clash (colours, I mean, not personalities!) but I would definitely not be wearing the same dress as the bride's mother. In fact, would have thought she would have wanted to be 'unique' as Mother of the Bride.

There is a I would try not to clash (colours, I mean, not personalities!) but I would definitely not be wearing the same dress as the bride's mother. In fact, would have thought she would have wanted to be 'unique' as Mother of the Bride.

There is a I would try not to clash (colours, I mean, not personalities!) but I would definitely not be wearing the same dress as the bride's mother. In fact, would have thought she would have wanted to be 'unique' as Mother of the Bride.

There is some advice on the GN Home page about MOB outfits for all body types which could be helpful to MOGs as well.

That's a very strange idea. Definitely a no from me!

Numbered=number of

I saw a wedding at the local cathedral. It was amazing watching all the guests ,male and female, arrive wearing the same rather vivid patterned material ( think Sanderson chintz) in any numbered different styles. Evidently it was customary in that culture for the bride to choose a pattern she liked and the guests went off to the tailors and seamstresses to have there favourite style made up. The effect was spectacular.

People might think you're twins!

How very strange......it would be a no thank you from me

This sounds very odd. I have never, ever heard of a bride trying to choose the mother of the groom's clothes before! I'm sure people would think it very odd if the Bride's and Groom's mother turned up in totally matching outfits.

I thought it was a major fashion faux pas to turn up at social events in the same outfit as another guest?

I've never heard of this idea before and I would say no. When we got married we had a colour theme that my cantankerous mother didn't go along with and stuck out like the sore thumb she always was, but telling someone what to wear is beyond the pale. Just got with whatever style you want to wear BUT please try and make sure that if you don't like the colour she's picked at least try and sort of blend a bit so you don't clash. In all our wedding photos my mother looks plain out of place.

oh Merlotgran - can you imagine! I don't feel it was done in a nasty or controlling way. But I do know I'm going to feel a bit guilty about saying no - which I'm definitely going to do now that I've had some reassurance from you all, thank you.

I think I'd send the link to as many female guests as I could and get them ALL to wear the same dress.

I'm Spartacus!

Somebody is delusional/controlling/ barking.
Please delete any which do not apply.
This is a total no-no.

How very odd.
Do you know the colour scheme, ie bridesmaids, flowers, decorations etc? If your outfit co ordinates with that, just say you have already chosen your outfit. If not, possibly consider choosing something to complement the colour scheme, and suits you. But not the same dress. No!

I think if relatives start to allow this kind of idea, it'll soon take a hold and become part and parcel of 'wedding' rules.
Just say no!
(And let us know what the reaction is, please?)

Grannywonder please don’t email her your outfit picture because then she’ll just answer you to say no that’s not what I want at all and you’re back to square one with no leg to stand on. Tell her thanks for the email picture but you’ve already bought your outfit which you hope she ll like as much as you do
Good luck