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to ask why several prominent members seem to have vanished?!?

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jura2 Mon 09-Apr-18 16:44:10

Could anyone help here - some long serving and very interesting members seem to have just vanished. How did that happen. DJ, GGMK2 and WW. Where? and Why?

MissAdventure Mon 09-Apr-18 23:36:35

Its very unsettling to think that someone would go to those lengths.
Its not even as if Phoenix is a right old cow! grin

Chewbacca Mon 09-Apr-18 23:28:27

Hell's teeth phoenix, it gets worse. I can see that some GNetters sometimes don't "hit it off", for various reasons but going to those lengths, to someone you don't actually know, is just plain barking mad. They must have put an awful lot of effort into creating their little mess and have ground their teeth ever since that their efforts were in vain. Success, as in your case, is the best sort of revenge!

MissAdventure Mon 09-Apr-18 23:26:51

Its a hell of an effort to go to, for someone you don't know from Adam, that's true.
None so queer as folk. The mind boggles!

phoenix Mon 09-Apr-18 23:21:08

Maybe!

I just find it somewhat sad that a grown woman would behave like that to someone she had never met, and who had posted on here about various awful jobs after being made redundant, then getting one that seemed to be working out well (BTW, 3 years in June, taking on more responsibility, now second in command what ever that means grin )

AND print it all off, and send it through the post at a cost of around £2.50 (can't remember exactly)! They must either have really hated me and wished me ill, (but again, why, as I've never met them?) or be somewhat deranged? confused

If it is the person that other members thought it might be, they even had the nerve to post sympathy messages on the thread about the whole thing.

Marydoll Mon 09-Apr-18 23:19:40

Phoenix, what a truly awful thing to do!
Anyway, they didn't bring you down, you're still here.

MissAdventure Mon 09-Apr-18 23:09:11

That must annoy the spiteful sod all the more! grin

phoenix Mon 09-Apr-18 23:07:36

MissAdventure yes, a very horrible and spiteful thing, especially as I had some bad experiences job hunting after redundancy, plus mortgage to pay etc.

Why they did it? Just pure spite I suppose, although why they felt such venom against someone they had never met, I really don't know.

Who? Well, a couple of GN members PM'd me with a name, but hey ho, you can't prove it!

Anyway, bottom line is, I still have my job, am still here on GN (although not as much as in the past, and to quote Elton John "I'm still standing"! smile

Chewbacca Mon 09-Apr-18 23:04:59

That's a horrible thing to have happened phoenix, I'm stunned that anyone would do something like that. What a massive invasion of privacy and trust. I hope things weren't too difficult for you at your place of work and that whoever it was got their come uppance. Glad you stayed, anyway! smile

MissAdventure Mon 09-Apr-18 23:00:12

Did you find out who it was and why they did it, Phoenix?
What a horrible, spiteful thing to do!

phoenix Mon 09-Apr-18 22:57:33

*Username-changing

We don’t allow members to change their usernames because we want everyone to be able to trust the relationships they build up with others on Gransnet.*

A very good premise, but GNHQ very kindly went back through loads of my posts and changed my user name for me, after some "trusted member" saw fit to print off a post of mine and post it to my boss! shock angry sad

Anyway, it did cause a bit of confusion, in that my OP was in the new name, but responses referred to me in my "proper" name, so I thought, what the heck, I've been Phoenix since day one, and Phoenix I will remain! smile

Jalima1108 Mon 09-Apr-18 22:47:30

Am I imagining they hinted they may set up a separate discussion group because they were irritated by the repeated circular discussions here.
Ah well, que sera
Many people avoided the political threads anyway so perhaps the views became less and less varied as more and more drifted away from them.

Jalima1108 Mon 09-Apr-18 22:43:05

It was very distressing, wasn't it Iam64

Iam64 Mon 09-Apr-18 21:52:42

See - I did it again. No it isn't a new form of tax lemon, it's confirmation that I shouldn't try and join in on Gransnet at the same time as watching the news. Which, by the way was so unsettling, in relation to Syria and possible responses to the chemical weapons attacks, I confess to having switched it off. I'll read the news in the morning, I find it's just too distressing before bed.

lemongrove Mon 09-Apr-18 21:38:59

Is that a new form of tax Iam64 smile

Iam64 Mon 09-Apr-18 21:34:44

Baggs, I'm so pleased to have made you weep with laughter smile. Apologies for clumsy wording but I was watching something on tv at the same time, multi taxing in that way isn't a strength of mine.

lemongrove Mon 09-Apr-18 21:25:03

I miss Ana and Anya too.

lemongrove Mon 09-Apr-18 21:24:10

Perhaps they have all been beamed up to another planet ?

Jane10 Mon 09-Apr-18 21:21:24

Sorry about Anya. I think we all enjoyed meeting her in Edinburgh last year. Oh dear. Hope she's OK.

Baggs Mon 09-Apr-18 20:40:32

But yes, I get that, iam. I had noticed that often the threads they posted on most seemed to turn into what I thought of as echo chambers. I guess that's what some people like.

MissAdventure Mon 09-Apr-18 20:39:38

smile

Baggs Mon 09-Apr-18 20:38:16

Except I'm not really.

Baggs Mon 09-Apr-18 20:37:58

Sorry!

Baggs Mon 09-Apr-18 20:37:43

"irritated by the repeated circular discussions"

??????????????????

Baggs Mon 09-Apr-18 20:36:11

Why does it matter if someone leaves and comes back with a new name? Surely one trusts them just the same as any other unknown new poster: one reads their posts, chats, argues, blethers, gets to know them a bit, or not as the case may be....

What's the problem?

Iam64 Mon 09-Apr-18 20:34:29

I'd noticed those three regular posters on the political threads aren't posting. Am I imagining they hinted they may set up a separate discussion group because they were irritated by the repeated circular discussions here.