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wedding present dilemma

(55 Posts)
grandtanteJE65 Wed 16-May-18 14:49:58

Actually, in Scotland it quite definitely was and probably still is a thing!

It's called "A show of presents" when wedding presents were put on show in the spare bedroom or some similar little used room for a fortnight before the wedding, and all and sundry of the happy couples' assorted friends and relations (most had as many as Rabbit in Winnie the Pooh) came to afternoon tea to inspect the presents and have a right gossip.

It wouldn't surprise me to learn that the North of England knows and loves the custom too.

LiveandLearn Wed 16-May-18 14:05:48

"Calling to bride's mother's with gifts"...who does that? I've certainly never known that to be a 'thing', and nobody brought gifts to me for my daughter's wedding last year. I'm sure the happy couple will be delighted with your generous gifts however they receive them. Enjoy the day on Saturday.

ninathenana Wed 16-May-18 13:16:21

It's her that's being unreasonable. I'm sure the bride and groom will be very happy with your plan.

humptydumpty Wed 16-May-18 12:00:44

YANBU - I think the wedding stress must be getting to MiL!

Ziggy62 Wed 16-May-18 11:42:55

Going to a family wedding on Saturday . Not THE wedding lol. Invitation included info of wedding present lists in 2 shops , both of which are at least a 40minute drive away. So we had long good look at lists. Chose one item from each shop. One we were able to pay for online, the other was paid for via phone call. Both items are to be gift wrapped by shop and bride & groom will collect.

Thought this was excellent idea. Couple get exactly what they want. Their house isn't ready yet but should be by the time they return from honeymoon, so all seemed well

UNTIL phone call from mother in law Monday evening. Wanting to know why we aren't calling to Bride's Mother's house with gifts. Now AIBU? Isnt the whole idea of having lists in stores so couples get what they have chosen, gift wrapped and paid for ???????

Plus both shops are in opposite directions so it would be quite a journey to collect both and wrap, plus 1 is a hoover!!!!

Rant over, sorry