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DD and DSIL loan

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Oopsadaisy53 Wed 27-Jun-18 10:46:53

No you aren’t being unreasonable as you clearly said it was a loan. The mistake you made was to say that it was until the SIL had another job?

But it looks as though you are all going to fall out over it.

As it’s been said on here many times, if you can’t afford to lose money that you’ve ‘loaned ‘ to family, then don’t give it in the first place, no matter how good you’re intentions are.

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lucyinthesky Wed 27-Jun-18 10:41:05

My DSIL lost his high paying job at the end of January and I offered to loan DD the money for nursery fees for DGS2 to keep him there until end July for which they were very grateful. I don't have huge savings and am a single Mum but really didn't want DGS2 to miss out and be taken out of nursery while DD works parttime.

I expected that when DSIL got his payout for constructive dismissal (around 80K plus) I would get paid back. Seems not. When I asked if I could have the money at the beginning of August as I have things being done in my flat and don't want to use credit DD said she thought I didn't want the money back until after DSIL got a new job and if I couldn't afford to lend it they would have taken DGS2 out of nursery!

DSIL has no job in the offing and is considering starting his own business. DD works part time from home. Besides their house they also have a flat which they rent out and don't want to sell as the market is poor (which I understand) They plan to pay back some of their mortgage when he gets his payout but not pay me back my loan.

I've said I don't want to fall out over this but AIBU in expecting my money back before they back off a lump sum of their mortgage?

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