Hi I have posted here months ago and received great advice. My DILcannot stand hubby and I, after inviting us to join themhere in 'their' town. So here we came and we live in Sheltered Accommodation, which is lovely. But we are not allowed to see our grandchildren and haven't seen them for over 3 years. Sure, we see pics on facebook. That is our son's way of 'keeping us in the picture.' I posted once that the kids had grown so much I wouldn't have recognised them. Apparently that is 'inflammatory' and I haven't to do it. And hubby and I had been getting on really well with the kids, but that is a bygone thing now. Last time I spoke to our DIL I said 'Is it a problem to you that we live in X town.' She is from Eastern Europe, not even a citizen here, but her reply was 'Yes, actually it is. I am terrified every time I go out of my door that I am going to bump into you. My hubby promised me that you would live in your own flat, with your own front door, your own interests and your own friends. so yes, it is a problem.' Personally I doubt there is any way around this extent of dislike, even though they invited us to join them here. So we are hoping to move. We told our DS and he said nothing. Not a bloody word. We asked him if he knew why and he said he could guess. I know we all do our best for our kids, make sacrifices etc etc. But talk about a kick in the teeth. I know my kids have done very well job wise and financially, but I do so wish they had some more backbone. We didn't want to come first, that is his wife'position. But we did hope to be considered. He told us that his kids 'didn't need grandparents.' I cannot believe one of my own can have turned out like this.
