Don’t call me ‘love’

BPJ Times are a changing apparently, we're moving on from "guys". A barman called me "Dude."
Judging by the way he slunk away - I must have looked as if my head was about to pop.

I call both my granddaughters sweetheart as I often get their names mixed up.

There are some instances where it would be unprofessional but as long as it isn’t anything derogatory I don’t really mind.

Ive just been called sweetie and honey by my cleaner,hate it if i say anything do i offend,

In oz the lovely young things(dental assistants) call out your (Christian name not allowed to say that either)which I find a bit rude considering I'm 70+

I’m a Geordie and can’t remember the last time I heard anyone use “pet” to address someone although it was quite common when I was young. These days there seems to be a lot of “hun” “honey” and “lovely” about . As in..... okay hun. No problem lovely.

Yes it makes me feel old too Lindylo.. I don't mind 'love' etc unless its used in a patronising way because I am an older person.

Well it's better than being called dear. That makes me feel so old!

Don’t like being called love or darling by young shop assistants at all. I usually say ‘I’m not your love or darling’ and walk off. Think it’s so patronising and rude.

No problem with terms of endearment but very cautious when I'm addressed as "Sir!" Usually means I'm not going to get what I want!

When someone calls me “Madam” I feel the urge to look behind me to see who he is addressing. I don’t mind anyone calling me any of the above-mentioned names, in a friendly way. I hate it when it’s said in a patronising ‘humour the old lady’ voice, though.

I'm from Yorkshire & use love quite a bit. Maybe a regional thing. Better than 'ay up cock' as still used with very broad speaking Yorkshire folk.

I think it's lovely! What I DO object to is people in a professional setting who I've never met before calling me by my Christian name uninvited. You can't say anything or you'd sound pompous, but I really feel irritated by some young person (who I'm often paying) saying "Well, Sally, how can I help you?"

No problems with any little endearment.

I don`t mind it at all. Reminds me when my Mum kept calling my son `duck` and he one day said `Nanny I`m not a duck`.{grin}

Petal, Flower, Love ,Ducks what does it matter , from a friendly voice .
I'm getting to the age now where I find it lovely to hear a cheery voice and see a smiling face , so many people are in too much of a rush to even be civil.

In my part of the world it's "hen" used as an endearment. e.g. okay hen, are you alright hen. Drives me mad. Much prefer the "love" I've encountered in London and south east.

I recently had a consultation with an eye specialist doctor who called me "Love" from time to time. I didn't mind as he was friendly and informative, although I think I would have preferred my christian name instead! Anyway, it was good to have a doctor who looked at you from time to time in stead of gazing steadfastly at their computer.

I'm in Northamptonshire too and was a bit taken aback when a tradesman called me mate! But then I just passed it off as a regional thing - we're all different and it's just what we are brought up with. I don't like madam though - makes me feel old (and a bit suspect about what they think my occupation is!)

As long as people are friendly and polite what is there to get annoyed about?
People seem to get annoyed about very minor things these days.
I get annoyed at rudeness but not at a friendly term and as for being over familiar it's just words their not touching you on the bum ffs.

Then Cornwall would not be for those who dislike being referred to as love where 'Luver' is frequently used being part and parcel of Cornish life.

Ooops, that should say can't stand hun

Here in Northamptonshire it's m' duck with the older generation. Mate with the younger ones. I detest being called madam and stand hun. My neighbour used to call me sweet pea. lol

What a sad world some GNs. As different terms are used in each part of our country can't we try to understand they are just local words that have been passed down over the years. They are seldom meant as a patronising put-down to women of a certain age. Some of then sound strange to my ear, my duck and ducky particularly- but I think people are being friendly.

So glad to hear that “loon” and “quine” are used in your area too SueDonim!
I don’t mind anything (except hun and babe) as long as it’s said in a friendly way, and it usually is.
Like MissAdventure I miss my mother calling me love.