Don’t call me ‘love’

I like people being friendly, you can tell if it’s patronising, which it usually isn’t. I don’t like cold callers ringing asking if they can use my Christian name though.

That’s cute, AussieGran. I wouldn’t mind that,either.

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Harris27

Doesn’t bother me. Better than being insulted.

Doesn’t bother me either. I’d far rather that than being expected to kiss like we have been for the last fortnight. I want to quote Pam Ayres, as in this
great poem by Pam Ayres, sums up a 'Very British Problem'!

But Don't Kiss Me..

I want to ask a favour of the friends that I might meet,
To all of my acquaintances who pass me in the street,
Give me a cheery wave: 'Hello ! How are you? Bye! So long!
'But don't kiss me. Please don't kiss me, for I always get it wrong.

I do not want to do it, I would rather pass you by,
I miss, you get a smacker on the ear or in the eye,
I'm standing on the pavement thinking 'Blast! Damnation! Heck !
He went the other way and I have kissed him on the neck.

I find it so embarrassing it makes my knuckles clench,
It's a very dodgy habit we've imported from the French,
What's wrong with 'Oh good morning!' or a handshake if you must,
A lovely smile of welcome or, all right, a smile of lust.
But I do not want to kiss you! I am sure you're very nice,
But I find it so confusing, is it once or is it twice?

I'm filled with apprehension, and a feeling close to fright,
Who leans forward first? Is it the left cheek first or right?
And I feel a strange awareness as we stand around and speak,
That there's a disconcerting trace of your saliva on my cheek,
So don't kiss me, no, don't kiss me, say 'Enchante! Ciao! Good health!
But I'm telling you, don't kiss me, keep your choppers to yourself !

Oh don't kiss me, I implore you, for I cannot stand the strain,
I seldom kiss my husband and you don't hear him complain,
So au revoir! Auf Wiedersehen! Just tell me that you'll miss me
But please if we should meet again, don't pucker up! DON'T KISS ME!

Lucca

Goodness it’s grumpy old women today isn’t it …. Modern words we don’t like, terms of endearment we don’t like. Count your blessings gransnetters

I know I shouldn’t look at these threads but they’re like a scab you just have to pick. ?

Doesn’t bother me. Better than being insulted.

NotSpaghetti

This is an old thread Lucca ? It hasn't all started today
And I don't think everyone is really grumpy and miserable about it though.
Just chatting.

Know it’s old but it’s been revived !

This is an old thread Lucca ? It hasn't all started today
And I don't think everyone is really grumpy and miserable about it though.
Just chatting.

Goodness it’s grumpy old women today isn’t it …. Modern words we don’t like, terms of endearment we don’t like. Count your blessings gransnetters

I suppose we are all so much more muddled-up than we were in my youth when we understood our own regional terms (and those of the nearby areas). Now, with so many people travelling for work, moving in-and-out of regions the love, hen, mi duck thing is more mixed up. Terms we may have found ok in context suddenly jump out at us and sound inappropriate.

I think in somewhere like an airport where so many nationalities inevitably pass through, it is perhaps polite (rather than "politically correct") to avoid them where possible.

I don’t mind pet, my duck, love, darling
I dislike sweetie, dear
I detest hun
Funny really. I had an email from someone who referred to me as ‘hun’ and I was so put off I didn’t reply. Talk about patronising. I suppose a lot depends on the tone,too.

We ate put last night and our waiter kept calling my husband my friend and me my love I found it annoying On leaving my husband said he was close to saying " I am not your pal and my wife is my love not yours "

Alex the Hotel Inspector calls all her hotel owners 'my darling' and it sounds just fine. She's trying to establish a very friendly relationship with them in a very short time so has to take some short cuts!

Goodness - I haven’t been called Fat Arse, but I do have one!

Many sayings are due to dialects and most have been used for many years. These sayings which can irk some people can be a term of endearment. Many other people love them.

I love the Geordie accent. At 77 years I am not changing . Live and let live.

Thank goodness I lived before the PC Brigade existed. Life was fun, we had a sense of humour. We should be embracing others differences. Life should be made the most of.

Eh me duck ?

I find it patronising. When I worked in a customer service role I called younger women/men by their first name and older prefixed with a Mrs/Ms/Mr depending on what name was in their file.

Often it’s ‘now then Bonny Lass’ up in Newcastle. Obviously ‘Pet’ is popular too - far better than being called Fat Arse! (Which I have).

To be called 'me duck' in E Midlands or 'hen' in Scotland is part of the charm of travelling round the UK. To me, 'love' is London-speak.
I have a delightful person I see regularly, for whom English is 2nd language, and who doesn't know my name, who calls me ma'am (rhymes with jam) which I don't like. But it's a respectful, cultural name... so I smile.

Ok, here goes.....

When i was a carer i ALWAYS called the person I went to by their Christian name, never, ever love, darling, sweetheart blah blah.

On a few occasions I was told by 1 of the ladies that they found it degrading when a carer referred to them as 'love', 'darling', 'sweetheart'.

Personally I too think its degrading....

I do not like being blessed !!!, but I do call everyone flower or love...nobody has objected yet.

It took me years to get used to being called babe or darlin etc. And it used to annoy the hell out of me when my ex husband called me babe all the time, like he couldn't remember my name!! But now I say them quite regularly. (It's worn off on me eventually).
But, my family & friends know there's trouble in the air if I call someone 'petal'!
If you're called 'petal' you've really p'd me off!! ?

I like it if someone is being friendly, though I don’t expect it from young people.
The check out lady in Aldi calls me My love, the bus driver calls me Darling and the market stall lady calls me Sweetheart. We're not friends, but it feels as if we are. They are all middle aged. It would seem weird from a young person.
I certainly wouldn’t expect any such greetings in formal situations.

I used to work with someone who called everyone 'my love' - it wasn't intended to be disrespectful or aimed at old people. She once told me that she had difficulty remembering people's names unless she knew them very well so just called everyone the same. Most of our clients were men and I don't remember anyone taking umbrage. She was a lovely, friendly lady who was well respected by our team and by our clients.

I remember watching Friends years ago and Rachel getting mad about being addressed as 'Excuse me' by anyone wanting more coffee ?

I grew up in Liverpool where everyone is "luv" or "mate" according to gender so I never thought anything of it. Too many people in the business of being offended nowadays.

Is it not just a term of endearment when someone calls you love,darling or something nice What's the big deal..People are only trying to be kind...