AIBU...to expect my friend to leave her dog at home?

Mine are well behaved but knowing my luck they would show me up! It's me you have to watch...I'm so clumsy ha ha

Well nanny2507...I can take mine anywhere because he is well trained. Need I say more ?
Oh that’s about a dog?
Thought it might have been DH! But on reflection.......

I’ll wait in eager anticipation ??

Exactly so OldMeg

If my previous post seemed sarky then in the words of the immortal bard
" You ain't seen nuthin yet "

Ah ha! The ‘only joking’ response!

Sorry for seeing the funny side, thought Bluegal posted that tongue in cheek.
Note to self - keep a check on sense of humour.

That’s a bit of a sarky post soda.

After all so many on this thread seem to see dogs in a negative light and in fact most are well behaved, flea free and friendly. What’s wrong with Bluegal saying hers is well behaved?

Well good on you Bluegal now you can have the goblet for best behaved dog ?

Well nanny2507...I can take mine anywhere because he is well trained. Need I say more?

.its not the dogs but the owners bahaha )

Exactly nanny2507.

i have dogs and i NEVER take them to friends houses. Even if i could its also nice for me to have a break from them. As much as i love them its hard work, its like having naughty children, i would be mortified if they broke/messed anything up and its not my house and I respect that.

Ironmaiden I guess people who love dogs just will never understand you especially with your connection to the animal world?

I would never ever voice my opinions on anyone. It is personal and if you have a phobia so be it...

My view is that children make far more mess than any dog I have ever known. People accept kids. Personally, give me a friend who wants to come round with a dog than their kids! Despite what has been written on this I don't know of any people who have dogs who are .. aggressive, pee in the house, bring fleas, bite my ankles, snarl and snap etc etc.

On the other hand....their kids run amok lol........

I do not like dogs, in fact I am a bit phobic about them. They scare me and I don’t like physical contact, although I am very concerned about cruelty to animals, am vegan and subscribe to PETA. I would never visit a house with dogs and I am afraid if someone turned up with one they wouldn’t get over the threshold. Just, no. Your house, your rules.

My husband's grandmother went into a nursing home and she was given a soft toy dog which she loved. She was always cuddling it and really enjoyed that. There's a solution.
I found I was holding my daughter's doll as you hold a baby when my grandsons had visited with their teddies. It is a very comforting sensation. (I don't yet go out with it.).

Bluegal ??

That's true OldMeg but just stating my opinion.

Old Meg: just to say I agree with you ?.

She should surely be willing to compromise a little, unless she's really not bothered about the friendship.

The OP has said she doesn’t want to do that!

Twice!

Is there a place to meet, a dog friendly pub, that is in taxi distance for you & drivable for her? Or a National Trust type place with a nice cafe?

So no solution G70

Do let us know what you do and what your friend says.

But it’s not your dog sodapop it’s watermelons and that’s her choice.

Not sure I would put my dogs ahead of my daughter
watermeadow I think I would agree on reciprocal visits and put my dogs in kennels.

One of my daughters doesn’t like dogs. I can’t visit her without staying overnight so I don’t visit, as I don’t leave my dog longer than a few hours.
She has to visit me. Her choice.

I have already pointed out that I have mobility problems of various types, and also that meeting for lunch somewhere is a much shorter meeting than we would normally have.

I think it’s quite sad to be so dependent on a dog - except guide dogs, of course.