Malicious Gossip :(

Sorry my last post was for Pat1949 and not Nanny42. Apologies.

Nanny42. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. However I don’t feel anyone has posted anything unfair to hairdressers par sa. Posters have simply shared their own experiences. I’m shocked there are so many!

I do agree you get gossipy and nasty people in other walks of life but generally I don’t associate with them and certainly don’t pay anyone for a service to only have them gossip about me.

I feel Hairdressers should be professional and customers should be assured they won’t be gossiped about. Like a previous poster said the experience should be relaxing and enjoyable. After all we are paying for a personal service.

Maw I thought that too!

And don’t all hairdressers do the head massage but these days anyway?

I love going to my hairdresser, we have a good chat about ourselves, families, holidays etc, she is very professional and I cant imagine her ever talking about another customer. I hope she never leaves, she cuts my hair exactly as I want it every four weeks.

I think some of the comments on here are being very unfair to hairdressers. People who make nasty comments about others come from all walks of life not just hairdressing. Usually, to my mind at least, it indicates some form of jealousy. I do agree with others who say find another hairdresser if you're upset by her.

jane ainsworth
Phew!

It is illegal to take a photo of someone without their knowledge and consent! And if she gossips about someone you don't know to you, how do you know she doesn't gossip about you to another client!!

I'd find a new hairdresser

re Facebook etc - I've heard so many stories about family breakups, longterm hostility caused by someone writing something thoughtless or nasty on there. Very destructive.
I read once that speaking carelessly or negatively is like bursting a feather pillow. The words are spread like feathers blown around.
You never know where they will land, and you can't take them back because you don't know where they are.
I wonder if the same applies to saying good things?

GabriellaG Congratulations on having such a talented Granddaughter!

Actually you can have a quite reasonably priced "do" there, and if it's a treat from time to time, then why not?

I remember Shirley Williams (and didn't she work hard?) saying that the amount of happiness and feeling of well-being that Hair-Dressers give to us should never be under-estimated, or words to that effect.

My goodness tiredoldwoman that really takes the biscuit. The cheek of that woman!

tiredoldwoman I am appalled! And yet I shouldn't be, because I was asked to go over some research about this kind of thing.
The good news might be that the person who did the callous and malicious posts of unkind photos has shown herself up for what she really is - a mean-spirited cruel and heartless person, whereas the party-giver is clearly a kind-hearted, caring and loving person who is generous enough to open her home for children to enjoy a party.

Bush Thank you so much! You are really kind.

There are some truly nasty people about. Sadly many of them have found it easy to spread their poison from behind a keyboard and the anonymity that the internet affords them. Though in the case of your colleague, tiredoldwoman, she must have thought that you'd all think her horrible behaviour was acceptable.

tiredoldwoman
Wow!! That is quite unbelievable behaviour.
I'm glad I'm not on fb, snapchat, instagram, twitter etc. I prefer to actually talk to people I know and have nothing of interest to post, after all, who else but family want to see holiday pics or want to know what I bought in Zara or Waitrose and I doubt even my AC want to know those sort of things anyway.

A work colleague of mine took her child to a Hallowe'en party that her child and the rest of the class had been invited to . The hosting mother had put a lot of thought and work into the party , welcoming them all . But my colleague took sneaky photos of the house saying it was dirty and untidy and put it up on Facebook - no thank you for giving the kids a party , just pure evil wickedness .
I'll never invite her to mine !

GabriellaG how lovely for you, treats are special when they come from your GC.

If anything makes us feel better and it is affordable, go for it. Life isn't a rehearsal, this is it.

GabriellaG (lovely name btw)

Lucky you! If ever you get to take a guest I could be avaialable

MawBroon
'You pays yer money amd you takes yer choice' as Mark Twain wrote.
One of my grandaughters works there. It's her treat to me and yes, she pays a discounted rate for RW or another stylist to do my hair.
I used to go to Toni and Guy where she formerly worked.
I'm very grateful that she offers such a nice treat to both me and her mum.

COVERTING opinion

Great quote willa45 ! It resonates true with me.

I agree Sarahellenwhitney although apart from converting opinion on here and sharing with my other half I won’t be repeating it. Most certainly I do not wish to be seen as gossiping about the unsuspecting cafe customer.

The same can’t be said about the stylist as whilst I was there she was sharing with the first person who walked in her door.

We moved into our house about a year ago, and at the bottom of our road we have a little newspaper shop. The owner in there is nothing but a nasty gossip and talks about everyone on our road and its never nothing nice. When I first went in he obviously new I was new and they proceeded to tell me all about my neighbours (who are actually lovely) Its put me off gong into the shop and I would rather get in the car and drive to another shop.

Bush.This is gossip and puts you in an awkward position as you are now party to this gossip whether it be true or false. Your stylist makes comments concerning a person who she does not appear to know personally. Change your stylist.

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. - Eleanor Roosevelt

I didnt laugh but I cant argue anymore. People have made their minds up

I fear you’re right oldbatty and part of the problem is social media where people feed into and absorb their own prejudices on fb and Twitter, and that has become the norm rather than reasoned debate.
Young people I know say they don’t read newspapers or listen to the radio, preferring to get all their news online, which doesn’t seem quite the same to me.

janeainsworth, its hard to speak up isnt it? I have and once got into a massive fight with a neighbour who said his Grandchildren couldnt get into the local school because of " all the P****"

At the hairdressers I heard some low level stuff of a similar nature, with the assumption that we would all laugh along.
I didnt laugh but I cant argue anymore. People have made their minds up.