Wedding woes

Hmm. I have some sympathy for you . It isn't soon so maybe time to adapt the invitation list and allow a number of your friends - surely.

We've had several weddings amongst our DC but I am still paying for DD's on my credit card. Every time the statement comes I'm reminded that I offered to pay and it added up although they were not unreasonable and his DPs paid for the bar and other things.
Luckily the families were quite even but my friends could only come at night because of lack of space as well as cost.
Our own wedding was so small and cheap I think the whole business is out of hand!

I think I agree with JudyJudy12.

I do hope everything gets resolved and that the Wedding goes well.

If it's any help to you, I would not expect to be invited to the weddings of my friends' children. However, I accept that everybody is different.

I do not mean to be harsh but it is their wedding, very nice of you to pay for it but it should be without strings.

Just let it go! As the song says!
It's their day, let them do whatever they want and just go along with it with good Grace and happiness for them.
Anything else would be disaster!
So don't!!!!!!!!

Yes, I would still feel put out, it’s not our fault that we don’t have any extended family and our friends make up for that and whilst I don’t expect all of them to be invited I’m being told that they can’t be accommodated whereas distant cousins on the groom’s side are way up on the invitation list.
I just feel that our ‘my’ input is disregarded at every turn

We contributed to our daughter's wedding, as did the groom's parents. It didn't occur to any of us that the Bride's family got priority in choosing guests. We left to the young couple, who were careful to ensure equal numbers guests from both "sides".
I hope this doesn't spoil the joy of the event.

Would you feel put out if you hadn't paid for almost the whole wedding?
I'm just wondering if you feel you should have more say in how things are going to be?
Its not a criticism, by the way.