Sorry for banging on but I can’t sleep as it’s going round and round in my head. First off I thank you all for your comments and I have taken on board what you all have to say. As some have you have mentioned about it being too soon to invite people, I agree it is but we need to know a rough ballpark figure for when we look at venues and as popular places get booked up years in advance we are looking now to see what’s on offer. I must add here that the mother of the groom is not interested in any of the wedding plans. As I have previously mentioned they have a large family whereas ours is small, and I would think the fairest thing would be the allocation of numbers to each side plus friends of the couple. However, I have been told that the ‘other side’ for want of a better phrase will get the main portion because of their kin. I must just add that my niece and two nephews will be getting invitations but my daughter hopes they will decline because she doesn’t like them. She has also told me she has allocated me invites for two couples she has picked out for me, these being my best friend who happens to be her godmother who we know won’t attend because they live too far away and the other couple are the parents of one of her friends who we are not close too, I meet up with the mother once in a while for a coffee and a catch up. Also when I asked if the mil would be asking to invite her friends I was told she could do that if she paid for them. Atm there has been no mention of them chipping in for the wedding which I’m fine with. When I asked my daughter if she had put my aunty who I am very close to on the list, she said no but she would consider her for an evening invite. The friends I would like to ask are two couples who have seen my dd grow and who she is very familiar with, it’s not like I’m asking all and sundry. Still I suppose I must put up and shut up. Rant over, maybe I can get some sleep now?