Why am I embarrassed?

Can you find a recording of a baby crying? (Or something else thats likely to dampen their ardour?) If she then complains to you just apologise and say you had a friend’s baby to stay while they were away - and add that these walls are so thin you can hear a pin drop.

I love the idea of playing ‘Je t’aime’ or the 1812 Overture at volume!
There’s also the William Tell overture - a fine piece of music which has an extremely intrusive rhythm - it’s best remembered as the theme music for the Lone Ranger.
It is quite impossible to have sex to this tune (don’t ask me how I know, it was many years ago)

I know you say you don't get along but as this is a regular occurrence and is disturbing your right to quiet and peaceful living, can you put a note through her door? Maybe she's unaware (in her imbibed state) that the whole neighbourhood can hear her?? It doesn't have to be nasty, just a 'would you mind keeping it down ' type of thing?
If you have fitted wardrobes and you can still hear them they must be pretty loud ?.
Good luck ?

I sometimes wonder if all the screaming and screeching is a result of Hollywood movies that almost invariably include a shrieking woman in sex scenes, perhaps to make it clear that she is having a good time. Perhaps it is a way for some women to indicate that they are having a great experience when, in fact, they aren't. Some men might well feel that if there was no screaming and shouting, either they had "failed" or "she" was frigid – not a good view for the future of a relationship. How could any of us forget Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally? What a clever dig at Hollywood!

Btw Nobody expects the man to scream and shriek, although some have been known to grunt and groan.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=md9ImEkV2_c

Finally worked out how to paste links. This is the link for the YouTube clip of the 1812 Overture finale with awesome cannons.

Suggest playing the finale of the 1812 Overture at the crucial moment. There are some terrific versions on YouTube, one with enhanced cannons for extra 'awesomeness'. Then everyone can share the moment. ?????

Good idea MissAdventure like when Ryanair land early they have a recorded trumpet

Maybe you could let off a few fireworks towards the end..

You have her address and presumably her name.

Time to sign her up for some very interesting catalogues. Lots of them about.

Midgey fitted wardrobes are on these walls. That is why I banged the doors. I am scared they will fall off.

The banging of the bed on wooden flooring also adds to the problem noise as well as the vocal noises. Again, don't people think about the noise. I would have thought carpets better upstairs.

Thanks everyone for your funny and helpful suggestions. I am tempted to buy the Google mini thingy. Just looking for excuses to get one. As my Radio alarm is old and I cannot lower or higher the volume easily.

Delighted tonight, just come home and neither car is here usually his car is left outside they drive to the pub and then get a taxi home. Picking car up following day.

I think you are embarrassed because our generation did not grow up with online pornography or graphic sex on tv.

Unless you think you could embarrass the neighbours into toning it down the earplugs are probably the best answer.

My sister had a thin wall problem (modern semi)

At 4am every day the neighbour's alarm would go off even when they were on holiday.

Her solution was to fix a grid-work of 2by2 ply on the dividing wall with soft insulation material in between which she then plaster boarded over.

The wall was professionally plastered.

Problem solved!

I would stand close to the wall and blow a whistle very loudly.

Alexa does have several white noise apps you can enable

I have noticed this in hotels. I suppose that is a temporary thing that you can laugh off.

I think I'd be inclined to ignore it. Perhaps put your radio on as the "disturbance" starts and they will hear it and realise you can hear them.

Perhaps as soon as it begins, play this at full volume

You could perhaps play a drum solo CD.

We once had a flat and the couple underneath were usually quiet except on Father's Day.

Presumably the "activity" doesn't last all night ? I'd suggest that you get some sleep earphones for your iPhone or iPad and play some nice music or meditation sounds for a certain amount of time - an hour perhaps - to cover the duration of the next-door activities. Good luck.

You could play some music in your bedroom, or turn a radio up quite loud, when there is "activity" on the other side of the party wall.

Your neighbour may genuinely not have realised that they can be heard.

I would knock the door and say is everyone all right. I thought I heard someone in pain? ?

Have a loud conversation with a friend when everyone is out in their gardens so she (neighbour) can over hear saying “gosh these walls are paper thin especially the bedroom ones and I can hear every little thing!?”

Play some music so they know that if they can hear that then you can hear them. I do like the idea of cheering or clapping at the finale though ??

You could buy sound proofing wall paper next time you decorate?