Why am I embarrassed?

The neighbours on the other side have the stairs and landing together plus the bathroom. The female is deaf, she is quite young forties but has two hearing aids.

I have banged my wardrobe doors a couple of times, but I felt bad about this, I don't know why.It didn't make any difference.

She has a teenage grandson who stays most nights except when lover is there. In fact he seems to live there.

From what was said about back to back bedrooms, any way of retaliating with noise might be heard by other neighbours too. I think ear plugs or headphones are the best bet ( i use an earphone in the ear that is not on the pillow, to listen to the radio at night to help me sleep). They surely realise that they can be heard unless they think you are asleep when they start and continue to sleep through it. I think people are less self conscious/ considerate these days. I wonder what they would do if they had children around?

Have your radio beside the bed, and turn it to LOUD when the noise begins. If yu can hear them, they can hear you (or your radio)

Do you know the neighbours on the other side? maybe they would speak to them. The couple may be unaware that they can be heard.

Or you could make similar loud noises each time so they have an idea of what you are hearing!

If you have the courage perhaps shout loudly or bang on the wall so they know you hear. They probably have no idea and would hate the thought of you 'eavesdropping'.

Why wouldn't you be embarrassed? It is embarrassing to hear other people having sex.

Some years back a rather po-faced doctor was a neighbour for a short time. One night she was having the loudest sex it's possible to have - she shrieked and he grunted for about an hour

A week later she turned up as a locum on the ward I was working on - I was tempted to ask her for the chap's phone number.

Luckygirl ?

You need an iphone with sleep phones which consist of a hair band with flat speakers in that you can lie comfortably on your pillow and hear the music.

The problem you are describing is common in hotel rooms where sexual activity seems to be an integral part of the experience.

If I were you I would cheer very loudly when the activity comes to its climax, so to speak.

What about recording the shenanigans and playing it back , maybe on a quiet afternoon ? I am joking of course , but the white noise thing might help

Yes, have thought about this but a friend said her DIL does this and did not hear a someone attempting to break in, lucky her OH was alert.

I was thinking about a white noise machine, wondered if a google thingy!! would do for this, does anyone know. I saw one in Curry's yesterday for £35. Thought I could just say "Google just play white music" and it would drown it out.

You could buy some earplugs.
Its probably the easiest way to solve the noise problem without any upset.