I think if you are peeved Icbn then that is perfectly valid and I would say its worth mentioning in a more general discussion with your husband about how you deal with birthdays in the family. I think its always worth talking about these things in a non emotional kind of way otherwise it will go on annoying you when it could be cleared up. I must say my kids, who are in their 30s, seem to find cards a rather quaint and bewildering thing that older folks do, and are much more likely to post on Facebook, send a text or an e-mail, or sometimes if we are lucky even phone up! My daughter told me its all too much to have to go to the shop, choose a card, write it, buy a stamp and then walk down to a post box, particularly when she is walking round with her phone in her hand. Of course I still buy her and her OH cards but I doubt they really notice and I am sure they would be just as happy with a text. Like other people who have posted, my OH is oblivious of cards and family birthdays, although he does usually remember mine.