I just need to vent . My daughter is one of our adopted children . She and her husband split up when the children were small and we helped her to bring them up financially, by organising contact with their father , taking them on holiday and everything else that grandparents can do . Their father grudged every penny he had to spend on them and never attended school meetings or appointments about his sons ADHD . We have a very close relationship with our daughter .
When my granddaughter was 16 she went to live with her father because she wanted to attend a college local to him . We still had a good relationship with her but didn’t see her very often nor did her mum .
She is now 20 and got married a few weeks ago . Her mum was pretty much excluded from the wedding arrangements and was hurt by this but I persuaded her to at least attend the actual ceremony as I felt she would regret not going .
Now I wish we hadn’t gone either , We , her grandparents and aunts and uncles , who had played a big part in her life were pushed to the back of the church , didn’t get invited in to see the signing of the register and we were not included in a single wedding picture . Her mum is in one photo and that was it . Everything was about her father and his family including having his parents photos (who she hardly know because the grandfather sexually abused his daughters and beat his sons ) on the top table .
She has re written history and daddy is wonderful !
I am so angry and hurt by her behaviour .
