Relationship break up

It sounds to me as though the ex-boyfriend is making sure your DD can't move on with her life and make new relationships. He may not 'want' her, but he will make sure she is unable to find anyone else, the early morning and just after work phone calls are an indicator that he is checking up on her. All you can do is be there, listen, maybe suggest that she doesn't answer the morning calls, after all it is none of his business what she is doing. All very difficult though, and I wish you well.

I know I am trying to be supportive, and have not brought up the subject since the argument and she has talked to me about some of the things he has said since. If it was just her contacting he I would be less worried but he Snapchats her first thing in the morning and when he gets home from work. I know she is an adult and she will get through this and I am thinking along the same lines as the rest of you.

Vik65 I'm in the same situation with my son, but you have to give advice when asked and then butt out! They are adults and need to deal with it themselves.
I wouldn't have wanted interference from my parents.

If you go on about it your daughter will stop telling you what is happening and you will not be able to support her, and it will probably become your fault somehow.

This is one of the negatives of social media, it used to be just dont answer the phone now it is difficult to cut ties, even if she did block him it will filter through to her via friends.

Horrible to see your children upset but we know it will not last.

Is she very upset and hoping that he will come back? In that case it’s not good but I’m afraid it’s not up to you. It’s her relationship and she has to work through it and learn.

On the other hand it’s perfectly possible to stay friendly with ex boyfriends. I did and still do. Some of them came to my wedding and over the last year Ive been to the funerals of two of them. Last month I met up with one of them and his wife for a day out.

My son, as far as I know has also stayed friendly with his ex girlfriends, goes to their celebrations and does a spot of babysitting for one couple.

A breakup doesn’t have to be an “out of my life” thing.

You can’t, I’m afraid. Let her work it out for herself. You have given her your advice, it’s up to her whether she takes it. She will have her heart broken- haven’t we all? But that’s part of life.

I have suggested this to her, and it just ended in us two arguing, so any ideas how to get them to stop communicating?

It sounds like she's hoping it's not actually finished and by maintaining contact things will get back on track.

She needs to block him, I’m afraid.

I think social media has to be used responsibly and infrequently.

I also think adult children will make mistakes.

Sorry if this sounds harsh.