Gransnet forums

AIBU

Fear for Daughters Labour

(29 Posts)
Maggiemaybe Tue 25-Sept-18 18:07:27

It’s hard, isn’t it, basslady? Fortunately my DD’s deliveries were fairly speedy and straightforward, but it was an anxious time nonetheless.

Could you bear to tell your daughter and her partner that unless they need your help, you’d rather only hear from them once it’s all over? I must admit I couldn’t have done that myself, but if as you say you’re going to be driving yourself mad with worry, it might be an option?

gillybob Tue 25-Sept-18 18:01:35

I know what you mean basslady I would have quite happily swapped places with my 33 year old DD during her very difficult labour 5 months ago . I was very privileged to be asked to be there at the birth of her much longed for daughter ( she was told she wouldn’t have children) and Whilst I remember thinking she couldn’t go on much longer I still felt better being there with her .

My DDiL on the other hand just seemed to pop her 3 out like peas (very quick and easy births) although maybe her own mum didn’t see it like that .

I’m sure your DD will be fine, just like mine is . I think it’s the feelings of helplessness and of course your unconditional love for your DD makes you feel the way you do . Just try to relax and think positively for your DD , even if on the inside you are passed yourself with worry .

ninathenana Tue 25-Sept-18 17:56:07

I was fine until I had the call that she was having an emergency section. She was living overseas at the time and I had no idea of how they did things or if indeed the hospital was any good !
It helped not to know exact timings etc.

basslady Tue 25-Sept-18 17:43:29

Im pretty sure I am being unreasonable but I keep getting the terrible “what ifs” about my daughters upcoming labour / birth of her first DD next week. I keep up a relaxed, cheerful encouraging demeanor but I am quaking inside quite oftetn. I have 4 DGD’s from my sons and ofcourse I was concerned my D’sIL had positive births, but this one is mega scary as its my DD and baby

Any suggestions that I could try to keep busy when she goes into Labour ? If she wants help I’ll be great but if she and partner are happy alone ( at hosp ) I think im going be demented until I know they are both ok. Im normally a really sensible person but this has taken me by surprise. Was anyone else the same ?