Internet safety

When I said blazing row in the OP, let me clarify! I merely mentioned I was uncomfortable with my charge being in his room alone on his iPad & could they please explain the dangers to him and then they both exploded, shouting at me about telling them how to bring up their child! I kept calm, apologised, explaining my safeguarding experience etc etc. All fell on deaf ears, no apology to me forthcoming; all I want is for my charge of over 6 years to stay safe so AIBU?

Got to be honest if my nanny had a blazing row with me I would be letting her go. Although you are right it's the parents choice what restrictions they place on their child and you have to respect that.

Oh Bluebelle I was naughty and didn’t read the other replies to OP before I posted, sorry

Yes, agreed, the parents are in the wrong but the ‘blazing row’ is likely to end badly

If I was a nanny( heaven forbid) I would do my best for the child, within the limits set by the parents. Pointing out that he is spending too much time online, suggesting restrictions is one thing, having a blazing row is out of order.

There are plenty of spoiled brats that have been raised by nannies and allowed to run riot by indulging parents, you as an employee can only do so much.

They must surely be aware of safeguarding and putting parental restrictions in place when he uses the internet. I don't think having a blazing row with them is the best way to express your concerns - but he is their child and the amount of time he spends on the internet is up to them.

It seems ridiculous to me to be paying a nanny to just be there while he is online - surely he must have other activities/hobbies he could be doing?

Of course they do I m not disagreeing with Maddcow or her need to advice just the way she went about it, if you go in guns blazing you are only going to put people’s backs up there is a nice way of imparting necessary knowledge

To have a blazing row with your employers even if you are completely in the right is not helpful in my opinion

If I paid someone with 40 years’ experience to take care of my child’s welfare, I would pay bloody close attention to their advice.

Kids need serious restrictions on their internet usage and access. Especially kids who are not too streetwise.

Well I personally don’t feel a blazing row is the way to go You can’t educate someone by getting angry with them There are gentle ways to get people to listen to you I think there’s a Chinese proverb that says something like the warmth of the sun will make the man take his coat off faster than a strong cold wind
Personally it’s up to the parents how they bring their child up and not you, you are their employee and even if you have a lot more experience and knowledge than them they pull the punches obviously you have their child’s safety at heart but have gone about it in the wrong way
I d let it go for now if you value your position otherwise you probably will be walking